What's wrong with people nowadays? I wonder every time when I am on Social Media why so many people share absolutely all their private sh*t on the internet.

Who cares? Well I care, when you are my friend, I certainly do care. But not to read it on Social Media. What's wrong with you? I want you to pick up the phone and ask me to come over when you are sick or upset.

Your boss cares, when you display #Ihatemyjob or #calledinsick

Or drunk on Sunday (Your boss might want to know this, when you called in sick on Mondays)

You share too much private stuff!

I don't have to know what you eat, when you sleep or can't sleep, when you are out or staying in. Stop sharing your complete private life on the Internet!

Once put on the internet, is ALWAYS on the internet!

You hurt yourself with irreversible damage.

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KarenDemers Premium
This is exactly why I haven't used my personal Facebook for the past few years...too many people posting the most boring things like taking a walk. I can't be bothered and now, unfortunately, being so turned off by it, I can't seem to get excited about using it for business purposes.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts...you are definitely not alone.
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Loes Premium
Thank you for your statement, Karen:)
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emerald860 Premium
I'm pretty careful what I share on social media. A friend of mine told me once, "I don't want to know what people eat for breakfast!" That stuck with me. I always try to go into these things by with one mindset: consider your audience. Like in online marketing, we should always consider our audience and if what we are sharing is productive or positive in some way. Just my 2 cents! Alanna
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Loes Premium
That sounds very sensible Alanna, I don't share my breakfast either:)
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ChrisScott Premium
I’m now treating people in real life like they treat me on Facebook. I walk up to total strangers and show then pictures of what I had for breakfast. I ask inappropriate questions and stalk people I think are attractive and force people to like and pass out flyers I like by saying they hate puppies if they don’t.

It is working too, Loes. I already have 7 people following me.

2 Private Investors, 1 Cops, 3 husbands, and some guy named Guido.
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Loes Premium
I read you haven't started out on correcting children yet, otherwise, you were followed by a riot of crazy moms too..

Glad you understand my blog:)
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ChrisScott Premium
Absolutely get it!!
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katzee Premium
Wow Loes - you really have stirred the pot here! But I do understand where you are coming from, and some of the posts are bordering beyond the absurd. I myself, at the urging of family members (who are now posting while I have largely refrained and only get dragged into the occasional comment or risk being seen to be disinterested in my own family and some dear friends) have a fairly neglected Facebook page. However, I have found my attitude towards Facebook changing to one of acceptance and think it does fulfil a need in our increasingly isolated existence, due to technology and other influences. I can be alone and always find something to do, and use the time to reflect and write - I never really feel alone; I have my faith and have been blessed with a beautiful family background; instilled into me was this saying (from my wonderful grandmother handed down through my mother: "forget and forgive, and you have learned to forgive" - it helps one to be at peace. Others are not so fortunate and feel aggrieved or just plain lonely due to illness and being housebound. An environment of political correctness also stifles spontaniety, but there seems to be no such constraints on Facebook and people joyfully let it all hang out, expressing their need to feel connected and share their innermost thoughts and experiences. I think there is a need, and thank God there is an avenue; I know it has helped some family members who were suffering due to their circumstances - in Facebook, people can find like-minded people and get so much from comments back and the sharing of humorous photos which seem ridiculous to some, but are appreciated by others, or maybe by none, but it is all in the sharing and caring.
However, you are right to be sounding the caution bells as people forget the world is reading and watching, including their employers.
Also, it would be very frustrating to read one's own personal details and information played out by family members - they should leave your stuff alone and only report theirs - anyone who does that deserves to be unfriended.
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katzee Premium
Ooops - that saying was meant to be :"forget and forgive, and you have learned how to live" - my dog woke me up to take her for a walk too early so my brain is still a bit foggy - lol, but you didn't really need to know that!
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Loes Premium
Hi Katharina, I endorse FB and other Social Media platforms have their good sides too. I merely stated about the people who broadcast everything on it. I like to know, the little baby is born and is called.... I don´t have to see the pictures about the incision just before the baby came into this world.
They can broadcast their divorce, but please keep the details to yourself. They can tell about the terrific food they eat in a restaurant and pictures, but I don´t want to read and see every breakfast, lunch, and dinner daily 7 days a week.
Do you get what I mean?
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katzee Premium
I'm obviously blind and miss a lot,l but some of the above would be irritating, to say the least,- but I see lots of positive and supportive comments - people going through chemo (although I saw a photo of horrific skin cancer, but they were sharing it possibly to come to terms with themselves and lesson their own horror of it). That is a bit over the top bit it's real life without the porn and other sh't we are subjected to from all sides - so long as they keep that out of it, I'm in. I guess people in our circles will get what we like and don't like eventually - I'm not too fussed so long as the decency side of it keeps up and people respect their families and friends (and that includes their privacy, which obviously your sister doesn't, and you don't deserve that. I hope she gets it soon.
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Loes Premium
Thanks, I hope so too:)) but I am afraid, it's uncurable
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katzee Premium
Maybe, till someone does it to her (like her own kids, if she has any) but that could be a long time coming yet. Hang in there - at least if people seriously start doing that here, we can always direct them to FB where all the sht goes, lol.
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JeffL61 Premium
Loes, the answer is quite simple. People not engaging their brains before they act out on choices,these days like the attention and glorification that is available on social media.

Without understanding what the final consequences would be, they go ahead and tell the world, egotistically all about themselves.

Sadly, most don't understand that a large majority of the world, not knowing the particular individual or even wanting to, could care less.

If people would only stop and THINK before hitting "submit" on a social media tweet, posting, comment, etc, their lives afterwards in many cases would be so much better.

That is really the negativity that comes with the territory surrounding social media. Once you send something out into cyber space, you can't take it back. Many people are too full of themselves to understand that very important concept.
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Loes Premium
I am so glad, my children know that and think before they hit that send button:)
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isisystem Premium
Social Media is a fantastic vehicle for all those who give us the 'if you've got nothing to hide, you shouldn't object to laws that erode personal privaccy'. If so many of them believe this, I think there should be more bank statements online by now. Perhaps it just hasn't gone viral yet :-)
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Loes Premium
I´d rather had they hide their dinners and drinks for me;)
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KatieMac Premium
I have to say I cannot get my head round some of the stuff people will put on social media and it can be risky as I have seen people put stuff up about their work and end up sacked, or saying they are too sick for work and there are pictures all over Facebook of them at music festival or something, most of my friends will contact me personally, I do not like seeing the drama on my personal fb etc.
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Loes Premium
I don´t like that drama at all too Katie
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KatieMac Premium
In fact I will tell people if it is something I am not happy with and if they keeps on I end up unfollowing lol perhaps I am a bit of a whinger as we say here .. have a great weekend Loes
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terrycarroll Premium
Misused Social Media, which it mostly is, seems to be an outlet for social cripples who cannot perceive any other form of contact.

Gone (for many) are the days of phoning or just turning up.

There was a great video on Facebook (!!??) recently showing a girl who just met a guy who had no social media accounts at all.
She was devastated and took counsel from her friends who were also devastated.

I really don't know where this will end and I fear for the future wellbeing of grandchildren and following generations.

Terry
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Loes Premium
This is so fed by the media too, you don't belong in any group without Social Media
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KarenDemers Premium
Awww...remember when we used to use the telephone to have a chat with a friend? Or writing a letter? All this has really disappeared in my lifetime and I agree with you...what happens with the next generation?
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terrycarroll Premium
Telepathy perhaps?? lol

Terry
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Chezbrown Premium
Well said Loes, I am the same. I do put up like somethings but not much or stupid like that. I always despair when you see the people putting up that they have checked into an airport or saying they are away on holiday because they are basically telling people their house is empty.

The ones who put the one liners saying I am raging and then when a person asks whats up they say they will pm them. Just do that to start with or don't say anything at all. xxx
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Loes Premium
Haha, quite right, you even get curious....WHAT!
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Chezbrown Premium
Definitely Loes, not the first time I've scrolled down to see if there is anything else lol. xxx
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DaveSw Premium
It is a new world out there for me for sure. As much as I see this (and I do add in some of my feelings regarding politics on my personal Facebook timeline - maybe to vent?) I also see LOTS of good things.

There are some very active groups that I am a member of and participate in that are VERY helpful for some of the work I am doing. Things like tools for building landing pages, video creation, websites, etc.

Also, I have managed to connect (as in I am friends with - on a business level) with quite a few very successful online marketers using the social platforms. These are people that have not only talked the talk but also walked the walk.

The marketing segments they are successful in vary but include fields like eCommerce and making money online. This is indispensable for us as we feel our way along...

That is a powerful outcome that the social platforms have made possible. There is no way that I could have made my presence felt without the social platforms.

So I guess while I feel and understand what you are saying, I am a bit more hopeful that I can filter through the personal stuff and the fake news (and the bad news) to make them work in our favor...

Cheers!
Dave : )
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Loes Premium
I do not say all Social Media is bad, I say, why are there people sharing all kind of private stuff?
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DaveSw Premium
Yes, I understand...The sharing of such information is part of a larger phenomenon of people using the platform to add thoughts in ways that they would not in person or face-to-face do.

As maddening or non-productive as this is, I choose to look past that for the good things I get out of the platforms, as mentioned in my comment...

I too do not understand why they post such things as you mention, these days employers are looking at the platforms to get an idea of who the person is, it is an indicator for sure (and not private, as you say)...

Cheers!
Dave : )
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Loes Premium
A friend of my son and my son filmed their action of blowing up some soccer chairs at the football field with fireworks, and shared it on FB
They got caught;)
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DaveSw Premium
Ooof, Loes...That is a hard example of what you are talking about indeed. Kids do the darndest things...My one daughter used to give me fits with some of the stunts she pulled.

Of course, this was before the social platforms even existed, but she managed to show her rebellious sh&t to the public (smaller population, but locally)...

It was a difficult period and it kept getting worse - there were drugs involved and it culminated in her attempting suicide and almost succeeding...

At that point, we put her in a 30-day psychiatric program that required her being sent to the USA from Germany. That was the turning point...

Just you telling me this brought all those memories flooding back...It was a scary time...I am sure it is the same for you, I do hope that you can work this out with him and get him on the right track...

The end of this story is that she is a well adjusted middle-aged adult now with 3 kids (two teenagers, karma is a beotch hehe), and is a joy to be around...

BUT - Kids are not easy...

Cheers and all the best, hang in there, they do grow up...

Dave : )
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TammiP Premium
I agree with you Loes!! I don't care and I don't have time for all the BS!!

I am rarely on Social Media anymore, except for my job, which is to promote Teddy Bear and WebMastery101.com. I just don't the need to know what color underwear you are wearing today!!

LOL!!!

T
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Loes Premium
Arghh, I forgot to mention the color of underwear....
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TammiP Premium
LOL!!!
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unclebenz Premium
Exactly my thought loes, it's like you read my mind out loud. People display too much on social media this days and it causes irreparable damage to them. I liken the situation to things falling apart, when it does, the center holds no more.
I really wish the web can be used more productively.
Thanks Loes.

Olukemi
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Loes Premium
Imagine, Mark Zuckerberg decides to sell FB to the Korean....
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wendyg53 Premium
I just unfriended a co worker who seems to suffer from the social media malady. She not only shares too much, she keeps bugging people on her posts and messages to chip in to get surgery for her sick dog. Thats is only one of her inappropriate topics on FB.

I love animals, and have three of my own, but I would rather walk through the streets naked than let everyone on FB know I can't afford medical care for my pets. It's very disturbing. We were even treated to photos of her dog's tumor...that was it for me.
Unfriended and blocked, FOREVER!

Unless I'm eating it for dinner, I do not care what everyone else is eating for dinner. I refuse to hit "Like" for photos of other people's dinner.

I'm sorry that you broke your toe and have to have pins put in it - but I really don't want to see a pic of your ugly toe while I'm trying to eat my own dinner.

I think it's called the "Look At Me!" syndrome. I believe in some circles it's referred to as Narcissism. All of it is out of control.

I'm glad you posted this. I feel better knowing I'm not alone in thinking how stupid it is to overshare online.

;-)
Wendy
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Loes Premium
You hit the nail! The "look at me" syndrome!
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LadybugLove Premium
AMEN!!! Why do ppl think no one will know or reprimand them for this??? Especially a boss?? What are they thinking...or maybe they're too drunk to care? idk...

I only share private stuff with dear friends I've had for a long time who know and love me. I also share that stuff with my Heavenly Father who can DO something about it to help me.

I think ppl are just looking for attention..but maybe they will get the wrong kind? Yeah...could spell disaster that can never be taken back, for sure!

The less said in the open arena..the better, I think!

Thanks for the reminder Loes...always love your exposee's :)

~E
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Loes Premium
I never share anything private on SM, but unfortunately, I am not alone, I have a sister who shares everything private family stuff:(
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LadybugLove Premium
I'm sorry...my 1st mother-in-law shared everything as tho she was a journalist for the New York Times!! (and she wasn't on the computer at all) But I learned quickly not to share ANYTHING of value with her.

That put a stop to the flow! Dammed up the stream! ;)
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StevenEsser Premium
The real question is: Why did you check social media to read all that and spend time on it?
haha

We all do these things from time to time. And you are absolutely right.. it breaks a persons integrity down instead of building it up. If you hate your job, then create your own job.

But above all, we should be concentrating on our own websites and we can use social media to promote that. But we don't need to read all the other stuff that people post on it. That time can be rather used on writing some awesome posts for upcoming Halloween and Christmas!

Steven
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Loes Premium
Haha, my mom showed me the sharing of my sister:(
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Swangirl Premium
I like this Loes. I know someone who has been posting the disillusion of her marriage complete with who, when and how she is hooking up with other guys on FB...and she has her own business so this is mixed in with business posts!

She also has a small child...and is describing how she is juggling him with moving out of her house and wanting to see her kid but wanting her freedom to move on etc. etc. etc. I know she is depressed so I can't be too critical...don't want to make her any more suicidal...but it isn't a good look! Her current guy is homeless living in his car and she is describing all this!
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Loes Premium
Owww, that's much worse than bad!
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Swangirl Premium
Yes, thanking her husband for being so good and understanding while describing staying at her parent's house and sneaking out to see the homeless guy...and wondering where she will get a few dollars to pay for meals...while expecting people to pay her as a business consultant...
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Internetgranny Premium
That is beyond stupid!!!
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Sftat Premium
We are SO Not Millennials! I don't get it either, though I understand awkwardness with social situations, and desperation to get someone to listen or understand. I imagine most of us have struggled with unfulfilling work, lost love, one way passion and toxic friendships, so frustration is natural. But public confession or self humiliation is NOT a great way to deal with these problems.

I'm with you on this - try the phone or get face to face. Easy for me to say, though - I didn't grow to adulthood with most of my life on my phone...
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Loes Premium
Neither did I, Stephen. But to broadcast it all...
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Sftat Premium
I've found the answer - they must get away from their smart phones... Check this article:

https://www.wsj.com/articles/how-smartphones-hijack-our-minds-1507307811

Evidently, this study showed that people are dumber when their phone is nearby, even if they can't use it. It WAS done with experiments on college students, though, so if your sister is not in that age range I'm not sure a smart-phone-ectomy would fix her problem.
Cheers,
Steve
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MCrim Premium
I believe people are braver when online. They don't stop to think that other people are actually reading their trash.

Although I have Twitter and Facebook accounts and I don't read it. If and when I decide to try Social Media marketing, I will have to.

Thanks for sharing, Loes!

mitch
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Loes Premium
Looking at the language they use, they believe they are untouchable
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LadybugLove Premium
I've had an FB page for my group for 2 1/2 years Mitch... and we don't do that!! We just chat about my niche..and it's soo enjoyable!!

I keep a tight reign...come one...come all and visit us!!

Barefoot Journaling Chronicles

~Evon :)
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MCrim Premium
I think you're right, Loes. Here in the States, many have been fired for sounding off. It's a hard lesson to learn but, hopefully, they will be the better for it.

Thanks for the comment!

mitch
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LAUGHsMILES Premium
That is the downfall of Facebook and other social media sites. My only issue is the fact that we blame social media for the actions of people. Sure they share too much information; this of course does not detract from the marketability of the program. WA would be just as bad if people decided to share all of there information and in the guide lines there is a lot information on how to properly market oneself.
Those that have chosen to use social media for a vent-il-ator are doing it because they have nothing to talk about. Here at WA we are to give them something to talk about!
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Loes Premium
I do not understand the motivation of people to put all private affairs on Social Media, if I ask my sister why she shares our entire private family life, she says, isn't that nice?

No, it isn't!
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Sui_generis Premium
LOL!!! Thank YOU!!!! I don't want to hear you vent about your politics either!!!!!!!! I do a LOT of scrolling on FB.

I admit that I am SO VERY thankful that FB was not around when I was growing up. I can forget most of the stupid stuff I did and no one can prove that I did it unless they have a pix.

You always have to remember that bosses DO look at FB, people who are interviewing you for a job might look to see the REAL you and last but not least, there are too many weirdos out there that can use too much information against you.

~Debbi
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Loes Premium
I am very glad to have that age too, Debbi, I can forget my stupidities too, there are no pix of it:))
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KarenDemers Premium
Well said, Debbi
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