Proud to be a mom moment
Proud mom
As you probably know, or can know from my profile page, I have 6 kids. And they all make me feel really proud. But yesterday my son tightened the crown. Many times during puberty, I have thought, oh my, what has to become of that boy.
Worries for nothing
Sometimes, most of the time, almost always, we worry too much. We see apes and bears on the road which are actually not there.
I went to the grand opening reception of the business of my son yesterday (the one in the white shirt), he has become a branch manager for a large company. Today it will be opened for the large public.
Are you a person who always worries?
How often have the concerns come true that you have thought of? Worrying is actually a habit that you have to change as quickly as possible and look at it from a positive side.
Worrying is actually a form of fear. Fear is the opposite of (self) trust.
Stop worrying, start trusting.
Grab a piece of paper
Write down all your worries, the small ones and the big ones. Put the paper in a drawer and leave it there for at least a month. Then read your "worries" again and you will see that most, if not all, have been resolved.
Ask yourself questions
What am I concerned about?
Can I solve that NOW?
Is it in my power to do something about it?
What can I change at the moment?
Focus
Do not focus on the problem, focus on the solution. Stop worrying about things you can not control. Let go of all worries you can not control and take action on the legitimate concerns. It will make your life happier. Live in the NOW.
Quotes
"If there is no solution to the problem then don’t waste time worrying about it. If there is a solution to the problem then don’t waste time worrying about it.
― Dalai Lama XIV"
"There is only one way to happiness and that is to stop worrying about things that you have no control over.
― Epictetus
One moment of joy dispels a hundred concerns.
― Confucius
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Congratulations on raising 6 kids, all of whom as far as I gather are all amazing! That is some achievement.
I worry all the time and mine are only tiny. I can see that this worrying thing is not bringing me anything good so I'll try your paper-drawer advice.
Best wishes from the Balkans :)
You will see that this will make you laugh, month after month, and will bring you more trust because all those worries you wrote down lead nowhere
Congratulations to your sons and THANK YOU for this post. You make my heart feel warm. Why, because this is wisdom in practice, knowing doesn't always help to deal with.
In France, we often hear "small children, small problems, big children, big problems", this says a lot about the path of worries of the parents.
Every day I try not to worry, but honestly, the worry appears all alone like a reflex.
Because maybe as a mother we feel viscerally concerned and want to believe we could have the power to do something about every situation.
Even sometimes facing hopeless health issues. The good thing is an enormous worry can alleviate an enormous amount of energy, send to the universe and beyond an impressive big no and make impossible things possible.
Coming back to the now and remembering "worrying is actually a form of fear. Fear is the opposite of (self) trust.
Stop worrying, start trusting" will follow my steps from now.
Thank you, Loes
I used to worry about my 4 girls becoming teenage mums. Now they are all adults and I'm still waiting to become an oma... what was the point of all that worry back in the day.....
Your words are so true....
Paula
Congratulations go out to your son and to you Loes. Great post, awesome quotes! Thank you for sharing.
Hi Loes
Proud Mum alright- So great to see
Isn't it amazing how the minute we become parents, the worry button gets switched on? I always wanted it to be the caring, concern button but my kids used to say and still do sometimes. Mum- stop worrying we are adults and we are fine.
My box of worries never happened and over the years I have had to learn
"Worrying is like a rocking chair, it is moving but it's going nowhere"
This is my favourite post today- I needed this, thank you
Vicki
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As a mother of 6 you are a hero Loes:) It's normal to have worries.
I have "only" 3 and my wife is very often anxious about whatever you may think, related to the kids. So I think fear is kind of normal state of mind for parents (especially mothers).
Agree with you we have to fight with our fears - the quotes are fantastic:)
Thanks Anton, unfounded fear has never led to anything