From One Newbie to Others - We Can Collect More Flies with Honey
So...here's my observation about some reactions from my fellow newbies. Since I've only been here a month I'll try to be as sweet as I can...
Being a Newbie is NO Excuse to be Rude
There have been some members that have experienced a little rudeness from some newbies. I won't go into detail, but there has been more than one instance. And from what I'm seeing from these and other members that have been here awhile, they're starting to not even want to bother anymore with helping us. And I can't say I blame them!
They don't want to leave comments on our websites and they don't want to participate in activities like live chat.
Who do you think that hurts? Yes, it hurts us. I for one desire and need their help!
I realize we get frustrated sometimes trying to learn this whole website business, but these people really do care about helping us, so chill.
So What Can We Do to Make it Better?
How about we give em a break. Yes, they've been here awhile and some are even in the Top 100, but that doesn't make them experts. If you don't like the answer they give, just thank them gracefully like your mama taught you and seek the answer elsewhere. Or send them a private message instead of on open forum.
They are helping because someone helped them and they want to pay it forward. So get over thinking they owe you...because they don't.
A Little Sweetness Goes a Long Way
Just remember that being nice and polite is going to get you a lot further. The whole reason we're here is to build each other up.
Now, let's go collect us some flies!
Karen :)
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That's what my Grandmother used to say all the time too, Karen, and truer words have never been spoken!
Jeff
Exactly! And some people don't remember these lessons. Of course, maybe they weren't taught this and it shows...
Way to call it out Karen. As a fellow newbie I have received much helpful guidance.
I have not noticed any rudeness (yet), but also believe it has no place here. Many here have been very generous with their time, which is much appreciated.
Thanks for shedding light on this :)
/Steve
This is me hitting the LOVE button. I know enough to know that there's a whole lot more that I don't know than I do. Rank has nothing to do with how much you know the ins and outs of the world of WA. One of the things I love most about WA is that - at least until recently - it isn't FB. I seriously don't miss the snarkiness and just plain mean people. That is SO NOT what WA is about. We are here to help each other, encourage, lift each other up, nicely kick ourselves in the butt and celebrate each other's' success! Thanks for sharing this - and you did it really nicely!!!! Great post.
Karen, you are right and we need that. We also need to know that in this business, not everyone knows everything. As peers, we all have different experiences. I am all for helping each other and collaborate. However, it is up to the willingness of individuals to do that. Not everyone will and I don’t expect them too. If you need any help, just PM me. If it is in my area of expertise and something I can do, I will. Cheers!
Very good point Karen.
Manners never hurt and they don't get paid to support us.
We should be grateful and polite.
I'm glad you decided to post about this.
Lily 😊
Well said, Karen.
I, for one, have been on the receiving end of what you describe here. I have always prided myself on helping as many people here as I can, but it amazes me how many new members act the way you say as if we owe THEM something.
Fortunately, many of us have thick skin (lol), but, yeah, it gets old.
Thanks for sharing.
P.S. And you are certainly correct about the "expert" thing. I've been in the top 100 for most of my time here, and have even been Ambassador a time or two, and I most certainly don't know it all... just ask my wife :-)
“Open your mind and you will open many of the doors that you are looking at.” Tom Short.
“Train your mind to be calm and you will have a better focus on life.” Tom Short.
“Small Daily Changes will Make a Big Change to Your Way of Life.” Tom Short.
Thank you for your time,
Tom.
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love your blog, and you are so right . we are all here to achieve success and make money. if we can make friends that is even better. I am sure there is a few mentors on here that can help any of us . no matter how frustrated you become you should not take it out on people that are trying to help or give advice. your amazing for sharing your thoughts. also, remember there is some newbies on here that might be nervous to ask for help and if they see negativity in asking for it, they might not ask for help and make simple mistakes, so be kind and helpful.
It's literally like biting the hand that feeds you!
Jeff
Good point Holly! We need to all feel comfortable, whether asking or answering. Thank you!
Exactly! Of course the saying is kill more flies... but I wanted to be positive so I went with collect. Biting the hand that feeds you is another good one.