Failure number 3 so sad
Hi All,
Is life worth the hassle ?? Is life fair ??
Yes there are many other questions I could ask, but the only one I need an answer to is WHY ???
My wife thought her hip had fractured again yesterday morning, although not sure. As the day wore on, she became more and more certain that it has definitely fractured again. It will be 8 weeks on Tuesday since the last operation, a similar time to her second failure.
She knows the pain when it fractured the last couple of times, this is the pain she is getting again. My wife is a nurse so she can tell if something is wrong.
In fact she is 100% sure her hip is broken for the 3rd time, this morning my wife decided to telephone the hospital to see if the consultant was on weekend duty.
But he wasn't, therefore my wife left a message on the consultants secretaries telephone. We are hoping her leg doesn't snap completelylike the last time, when we had to call the ambulance.
I am really upset, annoyed, angry, fed up and gone backwards in my recovery from depression. Life can become so hard, you start to wonder is it all worth it.
Anyway more importantly my wife, can anyone have so much bad luck. We are back to square one, 3 failures now, it does not seem real, BUT IT IS !!!!!
Need to sign off now, as getting upset, it seems we are never going to have a normal life.
See you wonderful friends around soon, perhaps.
Thank you,
John
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John, I'm ever so sorry I caught up with this only now. How is your wife now, any news? And by the way John, it is not her failure, or yours, my friend. Don't get me wrong, I love the NHS, but I'm starting thinking this is their failure!!
Giulia xxx
Hi Giulia,
Good News Update !!
After taking my wife to hospital for x-rays, no break was found. The doctor thinks that all the work in the same hip area is still causing some pain.
With 2 failures she panicked, but lets hope for a continued slow and safe repair of the hip bone.
John
John I know it sucks but the doctors have to find out why it is happening! It is not your fault! You can just stand by and support her...I know that feeling helpless is not ideal but your wife needs you! She sounds like a wonderful woman so you suffered a setback...Just go with it and this next one will be the one...We are all here for you and her...
Take care my friend!
Keith
Hi Keith,
I took my wife to hospital for an x-ray, they took 5 pictures and found no break.
The doctor believes all the surgery on this hip area has caused the pain.
My wife panicked with 2 failures and confidence being low, apologies but glad she was wrong.
John
Hey John Bummer BUT let me say something - as it appears something is not right here -
Maybe your wife is putting too much weight on the hip in the first place and has not given it the amount of time necessary to heal properly -
MY mum is 90 and had a hip replacement few years ago and she is in fact better now than ever
Hi Paul,
Took my wife for x-ray this afternoon at the hospital. On taking 5 pictures no break was found, but the doctor said due to all the surgery in the hip area nature is causing some pain.
My wife panicked when she had pain on Saturday, confidence low but glad she was wrong and my apologies.
John
Hello, John life is really hard to understand many times. Am really sorry for your wife and you. But one thing I know, there is a man who said come unto me, all you that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest. That is the man that I run to for solutions in daily life, his name is Jesus. I pray that he may give you rest and healing to your dear wife.
Hi Mariam,
Got some good news, x-rays taken at the hospital found no break. The doctor thinks the pain is due to continued surgery in the same hip area.
My wife panicked with this pain over the weekend, my apologies.
John
That is so good to hear. It okay you don't need to apologies. Greetings to your wife and family.
I am really, really, sorry to hear of this John. She has gone through so much pain and suffering with this hip problem. There are really no words that I can say to try to comfort the both of you. I can only hope that when you both are able to see your Consultant that it is not as bad. This is all that I can offer to you both. You are both in my thoughts and prayers.
Jerome
Thank you, Jerome.
But your comment has rang true, on visiting the hospital for x-rays this afternoon. 5 pictures were taken and no break was found, the pain is due to many surgeries on the same hip area can cause some pain.
My wife panicked due to the last 2 failures and low confidence, apologies.
John
No apologies necessary John.This is indeed great news.I hope that she continues to heal and the pain subsides quickly. I continue to have you both in my thoughts.
Jerome
Sorry to hear that John. Life sometimes just isn't fair and you begin to wonder why. You hang in there John and give your wife my best from nurse to nurse. Be strong. Don't let the situation get the best of you especially being depressed. Ok. Cheer up and take a deep breath and take it one day at a time. You and your wife. Your both in my prayers. Donna
Hi Donna,
Your kind prayers may have been answered, I took my wife to the hospital this afternoon for x-rays. They took 5 pictures and found no break, the doctors said the pain can be from so much surgery being done in the same area of the hip. Much of this area has been messed with a lot.
My wife panicked due to the last 2 failures where it did break, her confidence is low, but all good now, my apologies.
John
John,
Oh thank God! I am so happy for you. I know how depression can set in after going through something as such. Depression is a very hard thing to deal with also. God bless. Donna
While you cannot see it now, John, all you and your wife are suffering through,will take you both to a newer and more meaningful appreciation of life...I will pray for you and light a candle at Mass tomorrow morning...you may think that right now the only element in the human condition is "Hope"...I would submit that it is "faith"...Hebrews 11:1...hope I do not offend anyone in WA with this observation and trust it is not in violation of any of the parameters of our discussions...Press On!
Hi Arthur,
Your prayers have already been answered, this afternoon at the hospital my wife had 5 x-rays which revealed no break.
She panicked over the weekend with the pain in her hip, but the doctor told us it was probably due to much surgery in one area of her hip. The healing process can cause a little pain.
Very good news anyway and apologies from my wife.
John
Not apologies necessary...I am old friends with the demon "pain"...as a result of playing too many years of football, I have endured over 16 surgeries (3 on my neck alone)...share with your wife that pain is merely the remnants of her malady trying to halt her march to her healing...prayers continue, my friend...Press On!...remember, SHE is leaning on you for her healing and that is one of the toughest jobs we have as husbands,,,and YOU are a GOOD one!!
Hey John,
I can totally understand what you are going through, both you and your wife. When my son was in his teens, he used to say, "LIFE IS HARD!" I had so many health issues while he was growing up that he learned early on how hard and UNFAIR life can be. In 2010, my husband collapsed, was rushed to the hospital, and was diagnosed with kidney, colon, and liver cancer. He had 3 surgeries over a year and I was convinced he was going to die. His surgeon told me he got all the cancer and he would make a full recovery. I was shocked, but very happy! He is now 76.
In 2013, I was diagnosed with a rare form of breast cancer. I spent the next 2 years deathly sick and fighting for my life. I felt EXACTLY how you feel. I was not even sure I wanted to survive??
I am so sorry that you and your wife have to go through this experience. But we really have no choice, do we, except to plow through whatever is thrown at us?
Hang in there! Have you gotten several opinions and thought of changing doctors? Hopefully someday you will get back to a normal life. I know we have not had a normal life for almost 7 years, but things are looking up FINALLY!! I will pray for you and your wife, and try to bless you from afar. If you need to talk, contact me. I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL!!!
Thank you, Connie.
I am so sorry for your husband and yourself having to go through your ill health.
Hopefully you can share in some good news I have, at the hospital today my wife had 5 x-rays taken and no break was found.
The doctor told us due to much surgery in one area of the hip can still cause pain during the healing process.
Understandably over the weekend she panicked having this pain due to the last 2 failures with the bone and metal plate breaking
But all is ok for now, my wife sends her apologies.
John
John,
That is wonderful news! Give my best to your wife. I know how she feels. Every time I get a pain in my breast or under my arm (which is quite often), I start to freak. I go to the doctor, and everything works out fine. It is really hard to try and go on when you feel like your body is failing you!
Thank You for your comments and letting me know your wife is fine. And tell her there is no reason to apologize. We all panic once in a while! Unfortunately, when you have been through a traumatic ordeal, it is hard not to think the worse! Take Care. Connie
John sometimes life really `sucks` and everything seems to get thrown at you , even worse for your wife ...to face another `op`.
Keep positive , and ride the wave ... calm will come.
I am in a similar situation, my husband has had in total 5 `ops` on his knees. two full replacements ....the 1st two developed a fault in the plastic like material which acted as cartilage , and the 2nd two `heavy duty ` joints have been fine up till recently when on a visit to his consultant it is discovered that the metal pin in lower leg has become loose and the pin has moved too close to the bone , thus giving him pain. sooo means yet another `op` which is worrying ,as he`s not getting any younger for that sort of stress again. ( he`s not good with hospitals ) I know exactly how you are feeling and do sympathize.
Crikey Angie, your husband has been and going again through the mill, as the saying goes.
My wife has had a knee replacement for the second time, the first one failed miserably.
Better news, our hospital visit this afternoon for x-rays revealed no break. The doctor told us she has probably got pain through much surgery in one area of her hip where a lot has been disturbed.
She panicked over the weekend when this pain returned, due to the previous 2 breaks and the slightest bit of doubt she thinks it is breaking again.
But good news and she sends her apology.
John
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Hello John,
I'm sorry to answer to your comment until now as lately I am too overwhelm with my work and also fell sick with cough and flu.
I read about your wife painful fracture and later her x-ray that find her fine. I felt relieved for you. No matter what, I wish your wife full recovery soon and good to see that you are still doing well.
Thank you, Paul.
Glad you are ok, was worried I hadn't heard from you. Hope all is well with your health now.
My wife is slowly and safely improving day by day, but not taking anything for granted.
John