Tough Love

Last Update: January 14, 2020

Correcting a child can be hard.

  • But it could save their life later.
  • I raised 3 children... all successful... spanked everyone of them!
  • Before you report me for child abuse, they later thanked me for the correction.
  • It's easy to let someone ride other's coattails and let them do the work for you.
  • No doubt, people think I can be very harsh and perhaps seen as rude.
  • I have had to dig out stuff for myself... Google and Google and retake lessons to get it right.
  • Assure you it will not hurt our newbies to learn to do research... they will not die!
  • You learn by doing research. I am not boasting, but I am 82 years old and have a doctorate.
  • I got it the hard way... I earned it.

I remember in college a student asked the professor what something meant. The professor told him to read it. He did, then asked again. The professor told him to read it. He read it again and once more asked what it meant.

Again the professor told him to read it. The third time the student said, Aha, now I get it! Of course the professor could have given him the answer and he would soon forget it. Now, he will never forget it.

If I seem harsh in telling people to research the question, it is only for their good... they will remember the answer.

Before you chastise me, read it! Before you write me an epistle and tell me how wrong I am, read it!

In 82 years, I've seen a lot of people come and go. Lot of shooting stars that flamed out. Lot of people I didn't think that had a chance, proved me wrong.

I taught classes for years. I taught interrogatively... I asked the class a question and made them look for the answer. They never forgot.

It's called tough love.

Joe

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LenkaSophie Premium
This is brilliant, Joe. My mom also spanked me now and then when I was a child and I always knew why. It didn't hurt me as a person. I learned rules.
I don't agree with this modern upbringing when kids can do what they want and do not have respect to their parents.
Tough love is a must.
Lenka
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Joes946 Premium
Thanks Lenka. Worked for me!
Joie
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Rouba1 Premium
I totally agree Lenka. I don't get these new age parents at all.
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LenkaSophie Premium
Yeah, it is just not right. I can't imagine what the kids will be like when they grow up.
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Joes946 Premium
So true Lenka and sad. Thanks for the good reply
Joe
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AlexEvans Premium
Classic Joe, I was glad when they revoked corporal punishment, I held the record in my class, had this tussle with a master at high school.

I guess I was that nail sticking up out of the floor boards.

In later years he came to me for business advice, being pushed never hurt anyone.

Having said that today it is good to be able to help each other, the world has changed, paying it forward, is the way to go.
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Joes946 Premium
Alex, great post and reply.
Thanks.
Joe
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CMKetay Premium
No participation trophies here, either!!! I'm THAT mom...the one that calls my kids out and makes them do it the right way. My mom always thought I was being too hard on them. 3 successful adults, one an Eagle Scout & Navy pilot later.... she thinks I did a great job! Stephen Covey's begin with the end in mind works on all sorts of levels, including teaching & parenting.

Thanks for another great post!

Christine
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Joes946 Premium
Thanks Christine. Works don't it!
Joe
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CassiOfTroy Premium
Christine, excellent comments.
My daughter started the Covey 7 Habits for Children when she was 4 years old.
We revisit it from time to time and I know it positively impacts her.

No apologies for 'Tough Love'.

Cassi
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Joes946 Premium
Great Cassi.
Joe
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CMKetay Premium
Yep! And perfecting it with my ADHD Grandson. I start his daycare day with 'I'm a great leader, great follower, great helper, great friend.' The teachers think I'm nuts but at age 4, it's making a difference.
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Joes946 Premium
😏
joe
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paulmargallo Premium
I love this article. Thank you, Joe.

Hebrews 12:11
"For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it."
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CassiOfTroy Premium
For sure!
Cassi
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Joes946 Premium
True Paul.
Joe
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CassiOfTroy Premium
"Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime."

Great lesson.
Thank you, Joe.

Cassi
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Joes946 Premium
True Cassi.
Joe
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