I have no idea
I own it
Many are the times that my wife and I have disagreed upon something, we always managed to compromise and all would be good. This time I can not seem to see her point of view because it seems to be fabricated to test my limits.
I know there are men who are fashion conscious and some who could give a flip. I fall into the category of those who could give a flip but know there is a trap there. I admit that my knowledge of jewelry is limited but not all of it can be used the same way.
For example, you would not wear a Rolex while mud wrestling or emerald earrings while participating in Roller Derby. You just don't do it. It is my contention that you wear the appropriate jewelry for the occasion. To my wife's point of view, you wear whatever you have even if it is not right for the occasion. She is a fan of all things that glitter and sees no problem wearing a necklace around 2 year olds that love to climb, wrestle and generally roughhouse for hours at a time.
My dilemma
I am trying to find a diplomatic way of telling her that to play hard with the grandkids that she should remove her necklace and put it back on later. I need to find a way to tell her that there are certain types of jewelry to wear to a garden party that would not look as well at a formal affair. She has jewelry for all occasions but limits herself to 2 or 3 favorites. Any suggestions before I am completely done for?
I may have to get a head start.
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Oh boy Jerry, are you in it with both feet.
In the first place, never tell a woman what to wear unless she asks your. opinion.
If she asks you how she looks, if you want to live, at least say "fine". If she looks great one day, even in old jeans and a T-shirt, let her know.
Her jewelry is her jewelry. it's probably things she picked out herself, feels comfortable wearing, and it makes her feel good. I have a favorite couple of pieces that I wear everyday, no matter what the occasion or event. If I don't, people ask me where they are, if I lost them, etc. They're ME to a lot of people!
We all want to be UNIQUE!
If you've been married more that 6 months, which I know you have, you should have seen this earlier, which I'm sure you did. What difference did it make before this? You have control of how you'll "handle" this going forward.
My advice - Live with it........When Mama's not happy, no body's happy!
Celebrate her uniqueness everyday instead!
Good luck, tread lightly...................................
My best,
Laurel
Jerry, my Friend, please listen to me. Slowly and carefully put this idea, to tell your sweet wife to not wear her jewelry, completely out of your mind. Then back away from it very slowly. Never ever think of it again, and you might survive this moment of insanity. Trust me, you won't win. :)
Now, go out and have a great day!!
All the best,
Wendi
PS: Your wife rocks in that beautiful jewelry. That's what you need to tell her. LOL
WendaSue, before I had the opportunity to take your advice, my wife decided to bring me breakfast She brought me humble pie and in my coffee she put two lumps of justice and a splash of common sense. I must say that there was not a bite left or a drop of coffee that was untouched. I shall certainly be more prudent in the future as to what I say.
Jerry
I have that with sneakers, I have a pair that is at least 10 years old. They ugly, torn and tattered but I love them, if I could I would wear to every occasion.
The good thing is I have the driest feet on earth and these old sneakers "takkies" as we refer to them in South Africa do not smell. My lady friends including my sisters can not understand my relationship with them.
My answer its a guy thing, so that jewelry thing is a woman thing you will never understand it.
Let's try to attack this from a different angle Jerry. What if another female (friend or relative) would tell her the same thing you want to tell here, do you think she would listen?
If so, try to speak with the female friend or relative first - especially someone who your wife respects their taste in and practicality - and ask if they would "unsuspectingly" mention your jewelry preference. Not saying it will work for everyone, but it may work for your wife in this case.
My sisters and her friends are all out there and hold nothing back.. They would just be out with it and let the chips fall where they may. I think maybe I should just find a hole and pull it down on top of me.
Jerry
Thanks. I will be fine. I had five sisters who taught me the art of survival. I can duck and run with the best of them.
Jerry
Hee hee eheee........ohh boy this is funny Jerry!
Hey Jerry that last photo that last photo is not social appropriate along with jewelry for certain occasions, buddy!
Take it easy! I share your pain. Sometimes seeing her side can keep the peace. Those sea birds really take the cake.
Laughing my a// off my friend! You made my night!
Bwahahahahaah!!!!!!!!!!!! You are funnier than me my brother!
frank
Frank, the sea birds have more sense than I do at times. I still think I need a head start.
Jerry
ps Is your brother a comedian. I may need to borrow some of his material.
My wife puts on makeup to do the laundry and wouldn't be caught dead wearing jeans. She is a Filipina and has Spanish heritage which is how she explains that her relationship with time bears no resemblance to anyone else I have ever known. She has been known to lose something that was in her hand (and she laughs about it now though it was not always so). I won't even begin to talk about her approach to cleaning.
My best advice, love her for who she is and ignore the rest because you will probably never change it while shooting yourself in the foot.
My apologies ladies ...
I think perhaps that not only did I shoot myself in the foot but it came back to kick me in the rear. By the way, I ate every bite of the humble pie she had prepared for breakfast. Learning curve has taken a sharp turn downward.
Jerry
I think the appropriate attire for an occasion would be what your wife is happy, confident, and comfortable wearing.
So if she wants to go to aderby decked out in diamonds or wearing sweat pants, who has a right to tell her otherwise?
If your concern is for the safety of your grandchildren, then I don't think you need to worry so much about hurting her feelings because she also wants what's best for your grandchildren.
If your concern is that her jewelry may be damaged , then I think a simple reminder that's she's wearing something that could be damaged would suffice.
I will never bring something like this up to her again. She makes a mean humble pie and knows how to serve it(without any sugar coating).
Jerry
Hi, Jerry. While I agree with you that wearing that type of necklace around a 2 year old is not the best idea, I don't think it would be a good idea to say anything about it. If you anticipate a disagreement, I suggest that you might want to reconsider whether you say anything to her about it or not.
I don't mean to be obnoxious, but why do you need to find a diplomatic way to tell her what she "should" do? If you made a suggestion and she chose to ignore it, would that upset you?
Maybe I've been single for too long, but in my opinion, your wife doesn't need to be told what to do or wear.
Unless it is a potential danger to the baby, or a very valuable necklace, is the issue worth having an argument about it?
If the necklace gets broken, she will either replace it, get it fixed, or do without.
In my opinion, it wouldn't be worth the stress of a disagreement over something that, to me, seems so trivial.
Carol
Carol, I have never known you to be obnoxious. I was not trying to tell her what to wear only that the occasion for a particular style of jewelry was not for the occasion. You are right, it is not worth a disagreement.
Jerry
Glad you understood the tone of my message, Jerry. I would never want to insult anyone.
Sometimes it's difficult to interpret what a person is saying with just the written word. We miss so much without having the nonverbal cues like eye contact, facial expression, or tone of voice.
Glad you decided to let slipping necklaces lie!
Carol
Hmmm curly one.
I would suggest that it may be dangerous for the kids if an adult's piece of jewelry comes in contact with their bodies, such as; a ring poking them in the eye, or a bracelet scratching their neck. A chain could possibly swing around and crack them in the head.
I would be putting responsibility for safety for the children and I you can't argue against the safety of kids.
The kids might also see the jewelry on grandma, close at hand, which may make them curious to investigate jewelry more closely which can be potentially dangerous for kids, especially when an adult is not present in the room. And you can't turn your back on kids, can you?
Check out this article https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3006213/
Good luck,
Of course you can turn your back on them. You are a parent and have eyes in the back of your head right. She convinced me that I should trust her and let it be.
Jerry
Good luck Jerry sounds like you have a battle on your hands!
Can you bribe her with chocolate? hehe
My daughter often tells me, and by the way, she is 22, that chocolates are a girl's best friend, not diamonds......
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Hey Jerry. I'm sorry I am enjoying your dilemma to the point that I am. I have sat here and read your comments and laughed myself silly. I literally have tears running down my face. I sit here and imagine your little wife feeding you that humble pie and the coffee with 2 lumps of justice and I think maybe I just fell in love with her. LOL
No man should ever stand in the way of BLING!! Hahahaha
This has made my day. I hope you can forgive me but I just can't stop laughing!!!!!
Laughter doeth good like a medicine.
All the best,
Wendi
I will email you some tissue to help dab the tears away. I must say that I did not turn down the humble pie. I do not have a death wish. She said something similar about BLING only in different words. I am having my last cup of coffee with even more justice in it. I may need to find more common sense though. I seem to be out.
Jerry