A Mother's Life - A Tribute to My Wife

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Becoming a Mother

When a woman first finds out she is about to become a mother, so many emotions run through her mind. She is excited, scared, amazed, anxious, nervous and so many other things. Let's explore some of them to see how they relate to motherhood.

Excited and Amazed

A new mother when she first feels that first faint flutter of a new life inside her feels excitement that she is about to become a mother. She sees the world differently than a day earlier. She sees the future of her child before her and wants to give her child every advantage she possibly can.

She begins the process of changing her life for the benefit of her child. She changes her diet(sometimes out of necessity) for the sake of her healt and the health of her child. She begins to plan for everything that the child may need. She may actually cut some corners for the benefit of her child.

She is amazed that she has a new life forming within her. She may not know the science behind this miracle. The fact that she is part of a great undertaking forming a new life while hers will be changed forever. Her amazement grows daily with all the changes that are happening to her and the life inside. Truly a miracle.

Scared and Anxious

This woman who is to become a mother to a new life may often feel overwhelmed and anxious. She wonders if she will become a good mother and give her child the love and support that is needed. This is a natural fear for one to have. The unknown can make all of us afraid and anxious.

A natural byproduct of that fear and anxiety may at times be by becoming moody. There is nothing wrong with that unless it is taken to an extreme. People who have never been pregnant may not understand the changes that are coming so quickly that but should be supportive of the new mother.

There are ways to deal with anxiety and fear that lead to reassurace, acceptance and love. As a man who has been a part of my wife's pregnacies, I felt it was not only my duty to be supportive but an honor to help her through this.

Many men do not understand the changes that a woman goes through during pregnacy but need to place the good of the woman above their own egos. A person who is less anxious, nervous or afraid is much easier to be with. The mother needs to feel LOVED.

The Awe of Movement

During her pregancy a mother will feel her child move. In the beginning this is an exciting feeling. Knowing that she has new life within her. She will mark the date and time of this first movement for now she knows there is new life within her.

As her pregnacy goes along her child becomes more active. She is both excited and frustrated. She is ready for her child to be born long before it is time. The constant stretching and sudden bursts of movement at times seem to be more than she can bear. As her time approaches she starts going over her lists(mental or physical) to be sure that everything is as close perfect as she can make it.

The Birth of the Baby

Suddenly the day has arrived, she goes into labor. Many men have wondered why it is called labor when it seems there is not very much going on. I dare to say that if you have ever done extreme crunches with a 10 pound soccer ball attached to your stomach, you might have a clue. She is now going to be doing the hard part, having the baby.

When the baby is born, there are so many emotions that are running through her mind that go by so quickly. The first thing a new mother does is ask for her baby. She does her own examination of the baby checking the fingers, the toes and listening to the cries of her new child.

She is excited that the long months of carrying her child are over. Her excitement at seeing, holding and hearing the sounds of her child fill her heart with so much love that is can be overwhelming for her and all around her. Another aspect of birthing her child is the smell that she will always remember that is associated with her newborn.This is a special moment that should be celebrated.

Her Love Knows NO Boundaries

A mother's LOVE knows no boundaries. She will protect her child by any means necessary. She has gone through months of carrying her child and nurturing her child in the best way she could. She will not let anything or anyone cause her child harm. SHE IS FEROCIOUS!!!!!

She will lie in bed at night listening for a cry from her child, not because she is afraid but she wants her child to be well-loved and cared for. She will sing and croon at her child so her child can recognize her voice over any others. By that same token, if there are other children the same age crying, she will know her child's cry over all the others.

Mother's are proud of their child's accomplishments, no matter how large or small. They get excited about the first tooth, the first step, going potty for the first time by themselves. This is apparrent by the love they show each and every day. No one can truly fix a child's hurt except a mother.

She remembers the scent of her child right after a bath, how sweet-smelling and pure is that scent that she can't get enough of it. The scent when her child first wakes in the morning and the warm, soft cuddles that are given.

She cries when the first day of school comes around, her baby is growing up. She relives those first years before she had with her child. Instictively she knows that from this time forward there will be less time that her child looks to her alone. It breaks her heart but she knows that she has set a foundation that will be there for the rest of her child's life.

The Teenage Years

Her child is halfway grown now! The need for her child to become an adult presses heavily upon her. Mother's know their child will one day be an adult but Mother's want to hang on to the innocence and sweetness as long as they can. Most Mother's have to learn to give a little for their child to grow. The change is not always easy. There will be arguments and showdowns. That is a normal part of the growing experience today.

Instinctively she knows her baby is still there. The love she gave to her child will never go away. There may be some sad times and tears but a Mother's love is still there.

Mother's may not always have the opportunity to give the answers that are needed but they want that opportunity to give the love and attention that is needed. Someone else may be giving wrong or partial information to her child. She just wants to see her child grow to maturity safe and free from harm.

Even if the child wanders away from the knowledge given by Mother, she still loves her child with all her heart.

Leaving Home for the World

Mother's know that at some point in time their child will leave home to make their own way in the world. When her child leaves, Mother's heart breaks, she puts on a brave face so no one will see that she is afraid. She knows that she has given her child life, love and forgiveness. She trusts that all the knowledge she has tried to teach her child is there and trusts that one day her child will know her greatest creation is her child.

Afterthought

Although I did not give more specifics than this, Mother's are incredible people!!! I mention this because one of the women I admire most is my wife. She inspires me, nurtures me and guides me. She is not only my wife: SHE IS MY LIFE, MY LOVE, AND MY PARTNER. I literally owe her my life. She has been a protector and an advocate for me when I could not do for myself.

She has known laughter and she has known sorrow. The love in our home springs eternal from her faith and absolute love.

Thanks for reading.

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Jerry

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Super Awesome !

I have an incredible woman for my wife and the mother of our children. She has been extraordinarily patient when helping me along the path our marriage has taken. In good times and in bad.
Jerry

Wow, Jerry! Such a heartfelt and true memoir of mothers everywhere, my friend! Such love in these mighty words!

I hope your wife's Mother's Day was the best one yet!

Jeff

Jeff,
Mothers everywhere should be honored and respected regardless of their position in life. Without our mothers we would not be able to become the person we should be. Our mothers are our first teachers and have more faith in us than anyone else. They believe in us when others don't. They will also let us know when what we are doing is foolish.
My wife had a great mother's day. I grilled her steaks that you could cut with a fork. We also had baked potatoes that were done on the grill. There were no leftovers. She informed me that our anniversary is coming up soon and will be expecting the same type of meal from my grill.
Jerry

I totally agree, Jerry!

What an excellent post, my friend!

Jeff

What a lovely tribute to motherhood, Jerry! Your post was nicely done, and I'm sure, enjoyed by many here. Thanks for sharing it with us.

I have thought for many years of the best way to explain and honor mothers the world over. I felt this was the best way for me to explain how I view the journey into motherhood. Motherhood is a very difficult job to have as is fatherhood. I felt that by expressing the different steps to becoming a mother that it would show that at each step of her journey that I was with her in a supporting role. I realize that not all mothers receive this kind of support but as a new father it was up to me to show such support. In life we all need to have support from someone at some time in our life.
Jerry

Very interesting post, Jerry. You explained every step so well.
Kudos to all mothers out there.
Thank you for posting.

Watching and experiencing the different phases my wife went through in all of her pregnancies gave me an insight to what woman went through becoming mothers. I learned a great deal of empathy during her pregnancies. I feel that men should be more supportive during pregnancy and motherhood.
Jerry

Beautiful post for us mothers Jerry, thank you 🙏🏾. The love you shared is deep down within to your love one.

Stay blessed.

Elizabeth

Elizabeth,
The post I shared is a tribute to my wife but also to all mothers. Men can't truly understand all that a mother goes through but they can learn empathy. I am truly blessed to have such a fine woman and mother to be my wife. She has taken care of me when I was unable to take care of myself. She has been my advocate when I was unable to.
I am very fortunate that such a woman became my wife. I respect her and try to show her what is in my heart daily.
Jerry

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