Wet Wednesday Work & Wanderings Were Wonderful!
Hello everyone here in Wealthy Affiliate!
My day started out in the Wealthy Affiliate Community as it always does!
Tig-Tig wasn't there, but it did not take me long to find her sitting on the kitchen table! The Blog Dogs had alerted me to this fact by their sudden and incessant barking!
I tried to calm them down, but they were excited to see me earlier than usual! Again a blurry image because they were hysterically jumping around!
After tending to all the furry assistants' needs, I finished up my morning routine and decided it was time to head over to the eBay house! Monica had already left for another shift at her part-time job.
It rained almost all night, so I needed to go check a leak over there, and in addition, I had a couple of new eBay orders to package and ship! My porch and urn (above) showed how much water had been dumped from the heavens!
The roof leak had grown a little, but my helpers had not yet come around to blackjack a repair that I made earlier in the year that didn't fully take.
Surprise of all surprises, I caught a job at Enterprise Rental car that landed me a quick $100. The drive over to that job was overcast, as the sky has been that way all day!
After I was finished there, I ran a couple of small errands and then hustled back to the eBay house, whereupon, I continued some more Wealthy Affiliate research that I have been working on!
This is always good for the soul, IMHO! Then I caught up on some more Wealthy Affiliate blog posts that I had not yet read! I also chatted on the phone with a couple of my buddies, talking politics and business.
I also plan to do a couple more eBay listings to replace the sold items from today! My motivation is a little higher today than usual despite the dismal weather. (At least the temperature is in the high 50s {F} though!)
The rest of my time this afternoon was spent listing some eBay items and sorting through things to either sell or dispose of.
Last night when Monica and I were talking, I discovered that the 17-year-old daughter who thinks she is "independent" will be moving back to the house (this coming weekend!).
I am not at all happy about this, and the other two kids aren't too keen on it either! I won't say much about that further, except that there might be some nights when I find myself residing at either one of my other places if the oldest daughter makes it too unpleasant!
Anyhow, as I wrap things up here, it is still raining!
The urn is overflowing with water. Below, if you look close enough you can see the rain in the image!
I will be departing a few minutes after I publish this blog post!
I HOPE THAT EVERYONE HAD AN EXCELLENT HUMP DAY TODAY! (above or some of Humphrey's Frat Brothers--he already made his own appearance yesterday!)
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Living with a teenager can be difficult enough when they’re your own flesh and blood …..when they’re a ‘stepchild’ it can be a minefield. Trust me, I’ve been there, when I was the mother of a teenage girl, and living with a new man. I don’t know your family of course Jeffoi, but I hope you don’t mind me offering a few words of general advice I learned from the things we did - and didn’t - get right!
1) Agree a couple of ‘ground rules’ between the two/three of you.
2) Choose your battles wisely, and don’t sweat the small stuff.
3) Remember that the teenage years are few, but you and Monica are hopefully for life. My partner and daughter were at loggerheads at times, but now, years later, they are great pals. And he is a much loved grandad to her two year old. In fact she bought him a sign that reads ‘I’m not retired, I’m a professional grandad!’
It’s more difficult in your situation because there are your’s and Monica’s other children involved, and she might be inclined to over compensate the teenager (when I left my husband and moved into a flat, I gave my 15 year old the master bedroom!).
Good luck. There is light at the end of the tunnel, you just need to carry a torch meanwhile 😘
No problem at all, Jenny! I welcome such advice! The only kids involved in this case, are hers, mine are all grown, and actually on their own now--even the five former stepchildren I successfully helped bring into adult hood! The problem is, specifically, that over the last year Monica's ground rules changed to, what she says goes, and I have NO say in the matter! It's like I have a "gag" order imposed!
Time will tell how this will work out, and fortunately, I am very patience! Sometimes, it seems like too much though!
Jeff
I appreciate your kind thoughts, Jenny! I'm currently at an impasse! It didn't start out this way, so it is hard to say what snapped in the whole affair! In the meantime, I will pray, and will avoid any interaction with her because lately that doesn't turn out well!
Jeff
If she's the only one getting her way, this leads to imbalance.
I hope she sees this before it's too late, Jeff.
B
Compromise can also make one compromise their values!
Sink down to a level that is way below your standard.
Like putting that square peg into a round hole, It fits but where have you gone? Nowhere you planned.
I like this square peg, called Jeffrey!
Best to you, Bro!
S Barb :)
Accept the thing we can not change, Courage to change thhe things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference...
Keep your integrity and your word...Your true values, aye?
TTFN, Bro
BTW...where is Jaxxy Key???
My thoughts for you regarding your oldest step-daughter and her attitude problem is this:
My husband and I married each other 16 years ago bringing his two sons and my three daughters together as a blended family. My daughters were terrible to my husband, telling him they wished he had never married their mom, as well as other disrespectful things. I was constantly in the middle trying to smooth everything out, but I learned that it wasn’t my “fight” and I insisted on them figuring things out. Both my husband and the girls were so mad at me as I refused to take sides and expected them to work it out! We had some downright rough years but when it was all said and done, my daughters now love their stepdad and we’re a decently blended family after some pretty tough times. My husband realized that my girls had my attention solely to themselves until I remarried, so he tried really hard to get interested in what they were interested in and also, he showed them that they could depend on him always and that bought him street cred!
I hope you and she can work things out and get past this ugly stage.
Keep us posted!
Erlene
Erlene, you stayed the stay and it did work out. Good for you!
It takes 2 folks trying, if it's to work.
Sometimes it's easier to quit, which is the easier solution, not always the best solution, however.
Thanks for sharing a victory, Erlene.
Barb
Thanks, Erlene! Early in our Marriage, Monica looked ot me to assist and gave me a voice, but now her daughter controls her and I have absolutely no say-so in the matter whatsoever! That is the frustrating part! Her daughter cusses me out, and I just leave to get away from it at times!
Such disrespect is not tolerated! I was always nice, helping her with things, getting her things, etc. Nothing seems to work! I feel like a cuckholded mute right now!
I will take heart form your experience, but someone else has to meet me halfway to make it all work out!
Your thoughts are very much appreciated!
Jeff🙏
I totally agree, Sis! TWO to make it work, until then, we will have problems! Compromise--now there's a word!
Wow, Jeff
No-one deserves a cuss out
Totally disrespectful
It should not be allowed
Kids should know that they are kids and should behave as one as well
Even my ex-wife allowed me a voice with her five kids when we were married! I've got to respect her for THAT, Simone!
You and Monica need to revisit your love, Jeff
If this is not dealt with
It will not end well 😌
Until the proverbial "elephant" in the room is dealt with, then I am not sure how we could do that, Simone! I believe that Monica has trouble with forgiving, but even if she does do that eventually, she will likely never forget!😥
Yes, indeed! We had simply grown apart in other ways and when she met someone else, I knew it was over with! It took a year after that for her to file for divorce!
The first two years were good, then her daughter hung around with some of the woke crowd and her behavior went south from there! The last year in a half has not been the best! I've known Monica for almost 20 years though! We had tried to get together before , but the timing was never right!
Jeff, this is a decision that only you have to make.
You can't have it both ways
If you really need your marriage to work
You need to fight for her
I need it to work, but not at the expense of her daughter's continued disrespect and contempt! When it gets too difficult, I can reside a mile and a half away at the locksmith house. We will see how it goes, Simone, and I will continue praying, but I will not be cuckholded by a petulant teenager! I might be wrong, but there is a lesson that she needs to learn--you respect your elders! I will maintain contact with Monica though, no matter what!
Who knows? It might not even come to that though!
Jeff
I'm heading to snoozeville soon! I hope you have an enjoyable day! I'll be back sokn!😴😴😴
*** happy humphiee-e day and with a crowd today! ... lol ...
... it's a super day for the trees and grasses to enjoy a good drink as the summer past was so hot and dry, yes? ... and to store up a bit for the winter ...
... so rain is ok at times ... nice for the wee songbirds to enjoy a drink and a splashbath, too, perhaps ...
oh well, a damp, dreary humphiee day ... this, too, shall soon pass ... like everything else ... the sun is always shining! ... 🟡 ... just simply blow the clouds away! ...
keep well & enjoy a tremendous day tomalli ... cheerio ... :)) ***
The sun is always shining when you come around, dear Keishaoi!
It is so good! 🌞 Tomorrow is another day! We must make the best of each new one that we get!
Jeffoi
... yes, for sure, enjoy each new day and greet it with a big warm smile ... and you just might get a smile back! ... cheerio ...😊...
... and now i must get to my yoga ....
nite, nite and chat again tomalli ... 🙏 ...
let's bless the world for peace, love and Light ... and tons of healing ... 🙏 ...
Everywhere we look, Keishaoi! Some are hidden and some shine bright--like YOU, for instance!
Jeffoi
I always try to do that, Keishaoi! She is so stressed out with work, the prodigal daughter, and other things, so I usually get a confused look in response!
Jeffoi
That's one thing we can count one, Keisha!
Whatever the weather, there's someone out there with a smile!
Thank you!
B
Thanks for another entertaining post, Jeff. Tig-Tig does not look overly concerned about the Blog Dogs barking. I think she knows she has the upper hand.
All that rain is good for the wells. We don't get enough of that in our area, but then I love the sunshine. Can't seem to have both. My preference would be rain at night and sunny during the day.
I once had a 17 year old step daughter who resented me. The good news is she turned 18 a year later and I convinced her to join the national guard. She came back from basic training and actually got after her younger brother for "not showing me more respect". She treated me much better after that and I still get an occassional email from her..16 years after her mom and I divorced.
So, 17 year olds eventually mature but they do so much quicker via the military. It will make or break them.
Archie
Archie, I agree that we need the rain! I also prefer it at night, but right now it has been raining almost all day and most of the night!
This 17-year-old would need to lose around 150 lbs to join the National Guard unfortunately! I totally concur though, and they pay for college too!
Jeff
If the extra weight is not health related it would improve her self image (and perhaps motivation) to try the Keto regime. As she drops pounds she will have more energy and be more inclined to get a job and become independent for real.
Archie
Wow!
17 and that much baggage, no wonder she's miserable. Probably spends plenty of time sitting on her ass, too, doing nothing productive.
I thought I was fat at 130 in high school.
It lead me to learning about proper diet, and I've not had a real problem, since, except when my mom was sick.
I gained 40 pounds, in 6 months, eating crap while traveling back and forth to care for her.
By her death, while in Michigan, attending early morning meetings, which helped keep my sanity, during the polar vortex, my knees were killing me!
That and needing to buy a much larger size pants for her funeral, was all I needed to get back to right size for me, Jeff.
I feel for you, Bro...
B
For sure, Barb, they have to first internalize a desire to change. Those who never see themselves as a problem will never come out of it.
Hopefully Jeff can "paint a motivational picture" for her so she will become the change agent for herself.
Archie
Oh she tried the Keto, and made us all suffer through it! I tried to explain to her that she needed portion control with that, and that she should not be eating it at 12:30AM right before she goes to sleep, Archie! I also mentioned to her the importance of staying active and getting exercise, which she doesn't do!
Thanks for the kind suggestions though, my friend!
Jeff
You certainly have a tough one to break, Jeff. I will pray for your sanity until this one wakes up some day to reality.
Archie
You know exactly what I am talking about then, Barb!
She has some health issues that is for sure!
Jeff
Those prayers are very much appreciated, Archie!
I hope you have an excellent Thursday!
Jeff🙏
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You've certainly had a wet day there Jeff, but I foresee things drying up now, although next week could get a little chillier for you!
Best of luck with your favourite independent step daughter moving back home! I'm sure things will work themselves out!
Great news on catching a quick job though and enjoy the rest of your Thursday my friend!
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We sure did, Nick(nac), and there was a small amount today! We now have winds gusting up to 40mph, and the sun is battling the clouds!
Yes, it will be considerably colder next week which will not bode well for one of my vans!
Regarding the pseudo-independent stepdaughter, likely things working themselves out will mean me out living temporarily between the eBay house and the Locksmith Shop house! 😳🙄
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As for your vans Jeff, no comment!
But at least you have the other properties to escape to if the going gets tough my friend!
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Yes, indeed, Nick! Thank goodness for that, at least! I shall persevere!
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We all need to do our best to persevere through the rough and the smooth my friend!
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Yes, indeed, Nick! I will do my best to do just that! I have no problems compared to many others!
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Very true my friend, there are so many others a lot worse off than we are!
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That fact is what definitely keeps me grounded in reality and not feeling sorry for my lot in life, Nick!
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Whatever keeps your sanity, Jeff!
I know exactly what you mean, Sis!
Absolutely Jeff! I am in total agreement with you there!
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Much appreciated, Nick!
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