Mellow Monday Means More Momentum
Hello everyone here in Wealthy Affiliate!
As the title image show, this Monday morning has been dreary and cold! Not exactly what I needed to get my mood going in the right direction this morning!
Thankfully, I have the Wealthy Affiliate Community blog posts to go through and receive some great cheering up!
Tig-Tig was around, but I had to go and look for her! Ah, I found her in the bathroom, likely hiding from me, no doubt! I think she was caught red-pawed messing with the TP roll again!
I allowed the Blog Dogs to remain inside since Monica had already let them out twice earlier in the morning! They seemed content right where they were! They almost looked horrified at the prospect of being put outside again!
Finally, it was time for me to head to the eBay house for more of the same things I do there! The drive over there boasted more of the clouds!
Of course, I perform some more Wealthy Affiliate research right off the bat to get in the groove! Then, I went into eBay and revised some listings and added one new listing!
I performed other tasks until I got my one and only locksmith job today--a quick $40 for installing some new locks. It was close by and it was a labor charge for warranty work!
All done!
The drive over there to the north end of town was still overcast! of course, when I finished, I had to go to the bank with to deposit a check I received over the weekend, this was headed back south through part of old downtown.
Lo and behold the sun had broken through the clouds as I passed by some of the many historic buildings located in town! From there, I wheeled around and headed to my limestone warehouse complex.
There were some things of mine which my ex-wife had piled up to take the next time, and I thought I would check on things there, and also remove the temptation she might have when she returns in a few weeks!
The sun was breaking through even more as I left there after about a half hour, passing by the country building which is only a block away! In the background to the right is the 1889 Limestone courthouse rising up. It is a busy place!
The drive back to the eBay house was equally pleasant!
I'll get may state sales tax paid on line, continue writing and then finishing the blog post, and pay a couple of bills online while waiting for Monica to call when she gets home! This is the last day of her work week at her primary job, and she even took a paid day off for the next week.
Unfortunately, her part-time job at the hotel will east up two of those days. It's a long story, but she works so hard to pay most of her eldest daughter's bills (she will be 18 in December, but she moved out a year ago because she considered herself independent).
It is a major disagreement that Monica and I have, so I won't help her at all in that department! (even if I could!) This is the stepdaughter who has never liked me, nor has she liked any man her mother was with!
Anyhow, I won't bore anyone with all the details!
I'll leave you with a couple of nice images of the day as evening approaches before I publish this post!
I HOPE THAT EVERYONE HAS HAD AN EXCELLENT START TO THEIR NEW WEEK! MINE STARTED OUT SLOW, BUT EVENTUALLY PICKED UP STEAM!
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I love Tig Tig's expression. I don't think cats ever feel guilty in the same ways dogs do, but she looks as if she's been caught in the act! I love the photos and it certainly looks grey and overcast. Shame that Monica's daughter dislikes you, but sounds very much like jealousy. Hopefully, she'll realise this as she grows older.
Her expression does look guilty, Kathy! As I found out when I talked to Monica, she DID unravel the TP again! 😹 It was gray, overcast, and cooler. Monica's daughter is messing everything up for not only me, but her younger siblings! Hopefully things will be rectified soon!
I hope you are having an excellent day, and I appreciate your kind thoughts!
Jeff😎
Sounds like you're in Round 2 of step-children! Step adults that won't grow up!
Prayers for your sanity, Jeff.
B
It's very true, and apparently, the Prodigal daughter is returning to the fold! I might have to get the locksmith house--which has full utilities set up for me to stay at if this becomes unbearable! 😳🙄
Oh, No!
Not a good thing from my point of view..."The fly on the wall".
How big is your house? Will she expect her own room, too?
It doesn't sound like you got some quality time, with Monica...
Prayers, Bro!
I have a spare room here in Texas! LOL
Jeff, I may be speaking as a minority here
Maybe something happened in the past between Monica and her daughter that made her feel guilty and the only way of fixing this is to go out on a limb to help out with her debt?
Parents sometimes do things to ease their guilt. I pray that it doesn't affect your relationship with Monica.
You night be right, Simone! The father of her other two kids adopted Madison because she is a child out of wedlock--a nicer way to describe it--and Monica claims not to know who the father was, but Monica's sister informs me that she knows exactly who it was! Anyway, I was the same way! My mother had me when she was 18, and so my Grandmother raised me for the first few years while my mother "grew-up" a little! It has really not affected me that much though!
It has caused myriad problems in the last year when Monica didn't say no in several key areas and now her daughter--not yet an adult until December has over $30k in debt (mainly for inappropriate vehicles that she should never have, and that mom co-signed for, which sort of puts me on the hook too). Now year younger sister is starting to drive, and will likely expect the same!
Since I have no voice in any of these matters, she will have to deal with it!
I constantly pray that things will get better! God's will!
I hope you are having an excellent day, my friend!
Jeff
So true, Simone!
Parents that coddle there kids, and don't teach them to take responsibility, creates the "Entitled brat" . Gimme more, and still won't be satisfied.
Sad state, really.
Barb
I totally agree, Barb, and this is my entire point! If, God forbids, something should happen to Monica, those kids will have no clue what to do in this crazy dog-eat-dog world that we live in today!😳
None of us are alone, Barb! If we are experiencing something, no matter how crazy, there is a good bet many others have had similar experiences!
Jeff
Again, me too, Simone! We all tend to have the same experiences in varying degrees!
Jeff
Exactly! Who will fight their battles then?
My mom used to say, "Just because I have money, doesn't mean you do!"
Guess who was working in high school? Thank you, Mom!
Barb
Thank God for that, Jeff!
Truly a gift!
Hope you're having a swell day, Jeff!
"Keep smilin'...it makes the world wonder what you're up to"! LOL
B
You and me both, Barb! In fact, I started working at age 11 at the Private school I went to--as a janitor! They had no hour restrictions and could pay me what they wanted to. I worked there for 4 years, then a couple of years at restaurants and a bank, then the military, then after that, essentially self-employed the rest of the way!
Jeff
I wanted a Madame Alexander 1960?
I went another and picked up leaves for a nickel!!
I got the doll!
Babysitting large families, an infant at 11 years, too! I was sometimes the only kid that could handle these kids.
My first payroll?? Little Caesar's Pizza!
Moment me work, in 11th grade, provided I kept up with studies, flute lessons, her church activities... she directed Choir, and my sister and I were her Alto section!
I was invited to a Christian retreat by a friend, and TUXIS, teens united in Christ, was yet, another family through HS.
I'm tried of reading this! How did I mange all that is beyond me!! LOL
Valuable life lessons!
TTFN, Bro! ;)
Jeff, I am sorry to hear about your stepdaughter. I am sure that we all have lessons to learn. I talk to my son about his father girlfriend, who is probably a very nice woman with my kids, even though I know she hasn't be a good mom to hers (she left them when they were very young). My son dislikes her, when I ask him why, he doesn't have an answer. He says that it isn't her fault, but his father's fault for disliking her. He can't explain why, but as I see, he sees things clearly as his dad doesn't. His dad' gf is living in his dad's apartment, his dad is not living there, and he pays the bills there, but we (my kids and I) are renting and it's all on me. I am not angry, maybe dissappointed, but I accepted this truth. And my son can't accept this. Their father is trying his best with them, even though his best isn't enough when it comes to parenting.
Monica is doing what we say here 'bear's favor' to her daughter, because her daughter is angry at her mom, not because she dislikes you or any other man, but she is angry with her mom probably, and every person who is with her mom is not good. They can't be sure what they feel, they are young and they think they know everything.
Human relationships are complex. I encourage you to support Monica, not for the sake of her daugher, but for her. Imagine what is she going through because she can't balance among her jobs, kids wishes and you. I am just trying to look on this from some other perspective. I hope you don't mind 🙏
Anyway, I hope you'll have a wonderful week ahead, Jeff 🙂
I don't mind at all, Julijana! If it was only about support, it would be one thing, but she caters to her daughter's EVERY whim, and she has co-signed debt for her daughter of around $30K. With the economy here in the states, and my business suffering because of it, I can only support her verbally!
I have to maintain my own affairs, and not let this take me down the drain because of her mother's inability to tell her daughter a really easy one-syllable word-----NO!
I appreciate oyur kind comments, and you are likely right!
Jeff
I totally understand you. We, mothers can do so much wrong and think we are doing good for our kids - every adult spoiled human is raised by adult "blind" mom.
Economy on the other side where I live is.. oh, I think I'll write a book on this topic. And I guess pandemic will show in the following years how much we will suffer from economy that went down globally.
Anyhow Jeff, I wish for you smooth week, with less stress if possible :)
Yes, Julijana, with her youngest son, she is raising a "peter Pan", and this is a disservice to him, though she doesn't know it. She won't hear me talk to her about it, so I'll simply wait and pray!
I am trying to have the smoothest week possible with as little stress as possible, which is a hard feat to accomplish these days!
You have one of those too!
Jeff
Many kids today try to stay up with social standards, for need of acceptance.
Poor relationships and buying to fill a void are often the result.
How can one get credit when that young and no future prospects of steady ability to pay?
Another scenario, not thought through to the end! Quick decision, once again!
Horrible result result.
Karma will come back!
B
Praying as well, Jeff!
My kids have had to grow-up since their dad passed.
My oldest, was power of attorney, and had no job for most of Jerry's VA confinement. We blew much all of a rather healthy retirement income, after he paid household bills.
He's not been in touch for 3 weeks, now, as Mom is negative and full of crap!
So be it!
I'm waiting for him to hit his bottom, but not reaching out, after his last drunken entry.
I feel very relieved, and am trusting God to do His thing.
His brother is livid!!
Thankfully, he's got plenty of work to keep him busy.
Barb
Barb, not only kids are trying to stay up with social standards, adults as well. People are not focusing on their personal growth, but follow the standards. I have a hope that, now it is the time when people would have to get in touch with their creativity, because economy is not helping us to follow the standards. So, I guess we are all here trying to build up our business from our creativity.
Very sad, Barb! It's good to know that I am not alone! I sure hope both of our situations are resolved satisfactorily! Prayer will be the most important aspect!
Jeff🙏🙏
Hi, my Friend,
I'm sorry... but I will not comment regarding the stepdaughter, but certainly I feel that it's putting lot's of stress in your relationship with Monica and so on, and if she doesn't wake up and take a stand toward her daughter then it will be a recurring stress/problem for both of you guys.
my apology of no offence to any of yours, if I write boldly and straight to the point.
Good luck in resolving this issue
and have a wonderful Great Week!
Yes!
They do tend to put major stress on relationships, and my experience? Very manipulating and use guilt to get what they want, usually through the ex, at least in my case.
Best part of that divorce, was getting rid of that baggage. :)
Barb
I can totally relate, Barb! To that oldest immature daughter, I am public enemy number one, because I wield the power of the ability to say NO, and enforce it! (her mom doesn't let me though). Perhaps that was the ONLY good thing about the last ex-wife! If she wasn't around, she told the five kids, what Jeff says goes!
Jeff
No apologies, necessary, Pietro! You are exactly right! Until the problem is addressed and we both meet halfway to address it, the problem will only grow!
I need all the luck and prayers I can get to weather through all this!
Of course, if life was easy, where would the fun be in that?
You have a wonderful week too, my friend!
Jeff
I feel you, my Friend,
I had that thunder over my head
in the past,
But we will go true, no matter what!
been positive about
will be the best
Take care
Pietro
Thanks for that, Pietro! Even when we might not feel like it, being positive is key to get over the negatives that tend to invade our lives from time to time!
Take care, my friend!
Jeff
That was a gift, I never got!
They won that battle, but I won the war! I'm rid of it, and Happy, joyous and Free!, ...most days!
B
I think I am experiencing that battle now too going into our 2nd year since the nonsense manifested itself in full! The first two years were bliss for the most part!
Jeff
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A nice relaxing start to the new working week Jeffrey!
I'm happy to hear that you landed a quick job as well!
I hope that pre Hump day is going well my friend!
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It is slogging along, Nick! I'm getting a few tasks done, so all is well! How about yours?
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As long as things are getting done, that makes for a good day Jeff!
As for me, a bit busy with the day job, but I am lacking drive and energy now, so a seriously early night could be in order!
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I am dragging today too, Nick, so I know how you feel, my friend!
Better day tomorrow, hopefully!
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Watch emotional hang-overs ...they can really bring you down.;)
Yes, they certainly can, Barb! Sometimes, it cannot be helped though!
Jeff
For sure, Jeff!
Productive activities help pass the time, but I find my creative juices lacking when I'm down.
Good day for laundry and yard work, if nothing else...I'm moving!
B
I feel down a lot too, Barb, so I know exactly what you mean! Nevertheless, I pray, and try to reach deep within myself to pull the motivation out! For sure, it is a daily process!
Jeff
Acceptance of the things we can not change, Jeff, ...not always easy, but helps put the stuff aside for at least awhile.
Situation, stinks, and add the ex??
Hold on, Bro! We've got you, but HE has you first.
It's hump day!! Hold that thought!
B :)
Thank goodness for you all, Barb, and especially for God who watches over all!
Jeff🙏