Tell That To My OCD!
Whatcha Talkin' About, Willis?
Morning greetings from my side of the mountain, my friends! I've had this topic on my mind for a while now, and today is the day to write out my thoughts. It's just some simple thoughts for this Thursday and perhaps, we could all let these things serve as reminders. Here goes...
Otherwise known as OCD, it's explained as someone who has tendencies of excessive perfectionism, orderliness, and one who pays close attention to detail. While I've not been clinically diagnosed with this, I'm sure my photo comes up when searching for the definition. Yep. Me. I'm all wrapped up tightly in this tiny bubble and have diagnosed my own self. It's not something that just sprung up. Oh, no! I've been a victim of this for many years!
I have known since I was very young that I've had my share of 'tendencies'. Labeled a perfectionist (by teachers) in high school made it clear to me that it was relatively true. I was always the one who 'had it together' and remembered every detail of things, as if those things happened minutes ago. I've paid very close attention to detail, specifically organization, and many notice this about me within a short time frame. Other labels I've had were particular and Tidy Heidi. (Go ahead and giggle - I did the first time I heard that, too. It's still my favorite!)
Pick The Battles
I could mention the start of a never ending list that discusses all things in my OCD wheelhouse. Things from how I organize the pantry (labels forward-facing), a color-coded closet (all shirts also hung based on sleeve length), bins and baskets for everything from toys to cleaning products, to fingernail polish and candy... I'm telling you, the list goes on.
Over time, I've learned to accept this part of me as just that - part of me. I struggle every day with some form of choice, decision, or though regarding organization, cleanliness, etc. What I've learned (or am trying to learn) is that really, I'm far too hard on myself. I am learning to use this trait of mine to my advantage, specifically in my business I've begun here - just like you!
Negatives Become Positives
It's really a mindset how we go about our day, right? The things we think of ourselves can make or break our attitude and progress for any given day. If we're honest with ourselves and can see beyond the skin, we're able to recognize our weaknesses and learn how to turn them into strengths. Turn that frown upside down! We've got this!
Other Side Effects
There are loads of symptoms and side effects that accompany OCD. Thankfully, I'm not a hoarder. In fact, I'm just the opposite. 2 of the 4 in my household check the trash on a regular basis to make sure I didn't throw out something of importance to them! (Would I do that?) Feelings of anxiety do approach on a regular basis, but this is something I've learned to deal with (with the help of essential oils and mindfulness).
Apprehension, fear, depression, and panic attacks are also common in those who suffer with OCD (I've had tinges of these things in the PAST). Regardless, I'm one of the lucky ones who can recognize triggers and try to combat any negative reactions ahead of time. (Although, that still doesn't help my compulsive need for organization... which is completely fine with me! I always know where things are!)
For The Biz
The struggle is real. I have a difficult time staying focused. In fact, I've already deviated from this post 4 times in the past 10 minutes, and it's not because I needed to. (Oh! Look! A squirrel!!) Nope. I'm distracted easily and follow rabbit holes often. In a nutshell, I always do come back to the project at hand, because my desire for perfection rarely leaves a project unfinished. It's not ok to feel like perfectionism is ok, or is it? You see, none of us is perfect. I know this. You know this. But there is something inside some of us that craves perfection. We strive for it - and I fall short every day, but it's still there - rooted deep.
Since I cannot fix that, I use it to my advantage! I must, or I would be completely clinically crazy. (I'm only un poco loco!) When I think about being my own boss, there are not only goals in my mind, but rules. Rules I feel I must follow each day in order to accomplish anything. I'll share them with you in hopes that they help you as well! Here are my favorite three...
* Know Yourself (If you know you need to work in the quiet, don't listen to music while trying to work. If you need to research an article before you write it, do it! If you HAVE to respond to WA notifications before you've had your coffee each morning, do it!)
* Time Yourself (Different tasks require different time frames. Know how long you want to spend working on one task and focus only on that. You'd be amazed at what you can accomplish if you just set some timed goals for any sized project!)
* Reward Yourself (If this means you go for a walk because you've finished a WA post, then do that! If you have researched your next topic, take a break and throw yourself a little dance party. Buy yourself that book you've had your eye on! It doesn't matter how small the task, rewards are important!)
I know many of you who struggle with exactly the same things that I do. You get it. I see your heads nodding in agreement. Then, there are others who read this and think, wow! What would it be like to feel all of that - just move on. You see, it's very easy to tell someone to just move past the emotional strain that this quality puts on a person. To that, my friends, I say - 'Tell that to my OCD'! We're all WArriors, though, and we will succeed!!
Carry on, my tribe! Make it a thrilling Thursday!
Ciao For Now!
P.S. Any other perfectionist friends find what I spy as 'wrong' or 'off' in the towel image above?