Our Biggest Monster Within

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We all have daily battles in this online arena that are sometimes easy to win, but, other times not so easy. I’ve yet to meet someone that doesn’t have the biggest monster of them all...

Self doubt.

King of Failure

Yes, if you dig down and be honest with yourself, you’ll be most likely to find that self doubt is what has kept you from accomplishing whatever it is you’re working toward. And I mean anything.

I’ll give a personal example in a moment.

You may want to make a living at online marketing. But then the SD Monster starts talking. “You don't have enough experience with computers”. “You could never write those kind of blogs.” “Who would ever listen to you, much less buy something from you?” “You’ll lose all your money!”

And on and on...

And to give you a personal example to show it can be anything, this just happened for me.

My Battle

My wife and I was recently offered an opportunity to purchase a place in Florida at a ridiculous low price. This is something that we’ve always dreamed of and had hoped to someday have to escape the winters of Kentucky. It was pretty much a no-brainer and we were given about four days to decide before they put it on the open market. We were initially excited, but over that four day period, Old SD reared it’s ugly head. “You can’t afford the HOA fees and not be living there full time!” “Why take on extra expense when you don’t HAVE to?” “You still haven’t finished remodeling your house!” “That’s a 14 hour drive!” “You can’t upkeep two places so far apart.”So, by the time the four days were up, we turned down the offer. Thank you Mr. Self-Doubt!

Needless to say, neither one of us slept for two nights.

The Turnaround

Well, by the grace of God, I happened to catch a podcast by Dean Graziosi talking about self-doubt and how it can kill your plans and even your future. He talked about a drill he’s put himself through, so I sat down and put myself through the steps he suggested.

First, I did the usual thing...I imagined having the winter retreat. I thought about what it’d be like next winter and the winter after that if we bought the place. I visualized sitting on the patio, overlooking the lake, basking in the sun, hundreds of miles away from cold and snow. I pictured myself playing golf weekly, throughout the winter months. I could see my wife and I enjoying all the eateries available in the area. Life was good. This was the easy part.

Now, the second part of the exercise... I thought about what it’d be like next winter and the winter after that if we DIDN’T buy the place. I thought about how cold it’d be where we were and day after day gloomy weather of winter. I thought about being pretty much holed up in our house not wanting to get out. The same old six restaurants to choose from. No golfing for three or four months. Everything still the same as it had been. That’s all it took

We called the realtor. She had showed the place twice but no offers yet! We bought it!

As I write this, we’re on our way back home from a week stay at our winter home, painting and decorating. And guess what? On top of getting it all ready, the community manager was able to rent it for us for five months ( times we won’t be there). Three months rental pays for a year of HOA fees! So, basically now we have a winter home that’s cost free and actually making money for us. If I’d listened to Mr. SD we wouldn’t have anything but another cold winter.

Same In Business

So, you can fight the monster the same way in your business. Picture where you want to be five years from now. Five years will pass in a blink of an eye...a blink of an eye! Who do you see when you look in the mirror? Where will you live? Who will you be with? Imagine how your business is excelling. How everything is working out perfectly. You don't give bills a second thought. The savings account is running over. Customers/clients are knocking down your door.

Now, picture yourself five years from now and you didn't take action to build that business. You listened to that monster voice inside that said you couldn't do such a thing. Who do you see in the mirror now? Where will you be? Who will you be with? Will you be giving back to the community, to the world? Think of how the bills will still be there, and probably more! No savings. You're still at the exact same place as you are now, except older.

Now, think for a moment. Are you going to let that stupid voice in your head...that meaningless voice of self-doubt, keep you from being the YOU that you know you can be? The successful you? The you that everyone admires? Are you going to let it keep you from building your dreams?! No, there is no reason to listen. You've got to look the monster in the eye and tell him he doesn't know crap. That you CAN accomplish your goals. You are not staying in the same place you've been all these years!

And the feeling will be good when the self-doubt is defeated. And things will turn around for you much quicker than you can imagine.

He'll Never Go Away

Yes, you can defeat self-doubt. However, it will never go away for good. It will be back. Once you take yourself to the next level, it'll return. And you'll have to start the battle all over again. And again and again. At each new high point. At each new level.

Just go through the same exercise, the same process each time, and you'll come out on top.

Self-doubt will cripple you if you let it, and actually steal your dream life that could have been so easily yours, away. Just don't let it. There's no reason to. Your life is way too important for that.

Take action! Now!

Grant

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Thankl you. That monster frequently gets to me. I like the suggested exercise to get rid of it.

Hi Grant, Self doubt is a nasty monster and must be conquered at all costs. I find visualization does help me. Unfortunately that nasty SD monster does creep up on me at the most crucial times.

Thank you for the share Grant.

Best wishes,
Michael

I like to listen to Dean G and have done this exercise myself a few times over the years.

It's very effective, I think. It opens up your eyes a bit.

Yes helps to take the blinders off sometimes

Thank you for your wonderful post. Strange (or perhaps not so strange) that I was going through a huge self-doubt dip today. It has motivated me again, and added a sprinkle of self-confidence again.

Thank you, Renee. It gives me joy to know I've helped in some small way!

Thanks for the post I know I still feel self-doubt on everything I'm doing and sometimes need some help.

Thanks again for a wonderful post.

Thank you for taking the time to read it!

Self doubt is a killer of dreams so it’s important that we learn how to deal with it. Thanks for this helpful post

Thank you for reading!

What an encouraging post!
I sometimes have self doubt about blogging in particular.
Your post is a great reminder that continuing to defeat self doubt must be a major priority, especially if you want to accomplish your goals.

Blogging is my favorite platform. You'll always get battered by "Sid" (my nickname for self doubt - SD) how "that's not good enough to publish". "You need to work on that and make it better." "Nobody will read this." and etc. I do constantly. You have to just write from the heart, make sure it has value for someone and publish. And stay consistent. Don't listen to Sid!

Absolutely love your post. I need to do this. The self doubt monster gets in my head more thank I would like it.
Wanda

It does everyone's. Sid, (my nickname for SD) feeds off of every failure throughout your life, regardless of how small. But, these were in the past. You're in the present. It's a different game now. Don't let Sid put a damper on your dreams, regardless of what they are!

Thanks for the inspiration
Wanda

This is great stuff! Thanks! Bet you can't wait for winter!
Barb

Thanks Barb! And, you're right! Before, I always dreaded winter and now, I don't have to give it a second thought! In fact, I dare it to come on! lol

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