The Problem with No Problem
What's wrong with kids these days? And, by kids, I mean anyone born after 1980.
But saying "no problem" seems to be a generational thing.
When I say, "thank you," I don't want to hear "no problem." I am of an older generation.
I say "thank you" to acknowledge something done for me. If it is a problem for someone to do something, they should say so up front.
Saying "no problem" afterwards implies it may have been a problem. Or the task could have been or may be a problem in the future.
Putting together two negatives does not make a positive.
If I were apologizing, then the response could be:
- No problem.
- Not a problem.
- No worries.
- Don’t sweat it.
Here's a TIP for those working in a service industry. If you count on tips as part of your wages, don't tell me "no problem" unless you want a smaller tip.
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We are gradually showing how lazy we are to speak politely or possibly that we don't know. It is their world now and we are transient ... like it or not.
I've made this argument many times myself...I was born way before 1980! What ever happened to "you're welcome" or "my pleasure".
Debbie
Manners may have not been taught to some of them or they do want think manners are appropriate any longer. Good Post.
Jerry
I was born in the 60's, but still find myself saying that sometimes, so I'll have to check myself. Maybe that means I'm young at heart?
Hey, Glen. I get your point. What's your suggestion? What should I say? (I'm a kid born in 1984 and also not a native speaker).
"You're welcome!"?
Please advise, I'm eager to learn! :-)
Instead of you're welcome, try these:
Not at all.
Of course.
You bet.
Any time.
Happy to.
:)
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I never thought about this, Glen. I was born in 1952 and most of the time, I reply with "You're welcome". However I do use other replies interchangeably such as a "Thank you" in return, or yes... even "No problem!" Thing is, when I do say "No problem" I am sincere and I literally mean that their request will be no problem; or whatever they've thanked me for was no problem for me to do.
I guess it's a matter of context, because, granted, ther ARE times when someone says, "No problem" and there is clearly a hint of some resentment underneath.
I always worked hard for my tips when I was a bartender, always going the extra mile for people. My issue is with those who just go through the motions, obviously don't enjoy what they're doing and expect a tip. I never stiff anyone, but I am far more generous when I see someone trying harder and if they say, "No problem" when I thank them - as long as it's accompanied with a sincere smile, I have... no problem :-)
Good point, Hal. Sometimes when I hear "no problem" it sounds as if I was "putting them out." But when said cheerfully, I don't have a problem either.