Conversation is a two way procesd
Over the last few weeks I have been trying to get involved in the whole of the WA community. But I'm sure some of you are saying that that novelty will soon wear off!!
Maybe, maybe not, as I'm an all in or all out person.
But a question that I can't help asking myself is, why do people write blogs on here. I'm afraid I have got very cynical with some of the blogs I read.
it is very obvious that many members are simply writing blogs to promote themselves or their niche and to move up the rankings. So what do I base that on. Well I have made so many comments on members blogs where the writer has asked questions, or made statements that need response, only to receive absolutely no response.
Now I am not talking about the one line responses of congratulations or welcome that I have left, as I don't expect responses from those. Having said that, those are the people who usually do respond. No, I'm talking about where I have given my thoughts or suggestions.
Surely if members are just using the blogs for self promotion, they might take the bad look off themselves by at least acknowledging the response. I thought the idea of blogs was to help others and to start discussions and then to follow the discussions through.
i also can't understand why people are using the blogs like Facebook. I really don't think that that is what they are for, but the jury is still out on that one and that is certainly my issue.
So could I please ask that if you do not want to follow through your discussions, then don't ask questions or ask for people's views.
And when I'm in the moaning mood I will raise my other pet hate. If you are welcoming new members, would you please read what the person has said before replying. As I get embarrassed for those of you who give inappropriate responses, as the receiver must laugh and even get put off by some of your replies. This is when I see some of you telling people how great their goals are when they haven't even set any, or when you tell them how excellent their goals are when they say they are only going to give a couple of hours a week. Surely the purpose of welcoming people is not only to make them feel part of a community, but to give them constructive and considered responses. I think it is unfair and almost dishonest to let people think that they will succeed with goals that haven't a hope of succeeding.
So please treat the community, like a community of friends, chatting and exchanging and moving forward together and don't use it as a means to simply get up, or stay up the rankings.
Good, now I've said it, it won't bother me any more, even if you continue as before. It's just how I am. Apologies to anyone I have annoyed, but I just had to get it off my chest!
One final thing, as you have noticed I have to speak out when things annoy me, I put it down to my ASD. But once I've had my say then I'm sorted and can't then understand why those around me are sitting silent and huffing!!!
Enjoy what's left of your weekend.
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As a newcomer, I understand your sentiment. However, I am happy to comment on someone's request and being a mother, I'm used to not always getting thank yous. So, I move on. Besides, I can understand when someone opens up their email and the whole slew of WA emails total around 25 or more. I guess people are in a rush, rush to make an income, rush to get ahead, rush to train properly.
I'm not making excuses for people, don't get me wrong. I just don't think any excuses are needed. Aside from that, Geoffrey, I very much enjoy your writing style. I will read your blogs🌺
LOL. I like the way you just put it out there. I understand what you're saying though. I notice that some people will write long responses to a particular blog only to have the author (maybe) "like" it. What's the point?
I guess we each have our personal pet peeve(s). With the community as diverse as this one, I guess there will always be something that bothers us. If it's a small thing, I just don't respond and move one. It's not worth causing a stir.
~Debbi
Yea but was getting to me, but now I've said it isn't not bothering me. It's also interesting that the people I had in mind haven't commented. So maybe I wasn't far off the mark lol. But not an issue for me anymore now I've vented.
Have a lovely day.
Geoffrey,
You bring up some good points, but I'm not sure there is a single answer. We each have our own unique reasons, but I do think that many, including myself, write here as a means of communicating with the community. Sometimes I see a general theme, such as a need for some positive thinking. Other times my writing comes more from my own mind, rather than reading others' comments. I sure don't do it for the ranking. For that, my time would be better spent on my own sites to help them earn more money.
Many times, people do seem to leave a comment that doesn't fit the post or other comment. Maybe they didn't understand the writer's intent. More likely, they rushed through without reading. But then, for those that do leave well-thought-out comments, they are certainly appreciated!
While the WA community is not perfect, it is among the best I have been fortunate enough to be a part of. And I'm quite thankful for the opportunities I have here.
I am also thankful for posts such as yours that motivate us to think and respond. Thanks you!
All the best-
Diane
Thanks Diane for your thoughts. It's probably not much of an issue, it just happened to be annoying me at the time. I think sometimes I forget that everyone is different and I expect them to think and act like me!
Enjoy the rest of your day.
Not a problem and it is good that you feel comfortable voicing your opinions!
All the best-
Diane
There are some good points you bring up in this post, and I think the answers and responses will vary from person to person.
You mention comments on goals - and yes I find many of the remarks amusing as it is obvious they never read them.
Others are simply automated canned responses triggered by system events (initial signup/ upgrade to Premium etc) and are not individually written... so they will be a bit silly at times.
But as far as what goals are realistic and what isn't - that varies wildly from person to person and what is truly impossible for one (because of mindset, experience, skills, abilities, connections, drive, etc. etc.) is very easily attainable for others - or at least possible.
For example - I have purchased many properties over the years far below market (50% in some cases) when dozens of other "experts" were telling me it was "impossible" - yet I did it anyway.
Their limitations are not my limitations.
In reality, the only thing that stopped them from being able to do the same things I was doing was their own mindset.
I never argue or try to convince people who are dead set on their own limitations either - I just smile and do my own thing. I choose to help people who want help - and I choose not to try to convince anyone to do anything they don't want to do.
Having said all that - choosing goals that are impossible leads to frustration and failure that can make people quit. Too small and easy is not motivating enough - too hard and impossible is discouraging and nonproductive.
The trick is choosing goals that are right for yourself right now - challenging enough to make your heart race and drive you forward but not so high as to be pie in the sky and impossible ; )
Which is what to who is an individual decision and discovery.
So goals are unique and up to no one except the person setting them.
On why people do not respond to comments - that is something I am finding more and more challenging the more progress I make in building my own business empire (multiple streams of income from multiple sources interconnected systematically) which is a good problem to have I suppose.
What I mean is this - when I wrote my first book - occasionally I would get an email or contact form message and it was very easy to respond to them all because there were not very many.
As I discovered and began to create and teach online courses at first I only had a few students - so I responded to every single review and every question, every comment, and every message from each and every single one of my students.
Then I eventually built my course library to 19 (and counting) on one platform and other courses on others. I also have a few more books, and I have a few Facebook groups I run - one with more than 500 people and growing and another with just a few so far but still growing.
The total numbers are now in the thousands and growing (which I am very happy about!) and as my business continues to grow it becomes more and more difficult to respond to all - and soon will be impossible.
For example one of my mentors has several hundred thousand students!
There is no possible way he can personally respond to each and every comment, review, message, etc. There simply are not enough hours in the day - and again he is running a business not just seeking social interaction for social interaction's sake alone.
Time is limited.
It eventually comes down to a trade-off - respond to emails and comments - or write a new post (digital real estate/income-generating property) or create a new course, work on a book, etc. - so time has to be carefully managed and allocated.
I personally want to respond to everybody all the time - but in reality that simply is not possible past a certain point.
As for me - and I certainly don't know for others - but for me, I will always personally respond to at least some comments and messages as best I can. I also read far more than I can respond to - and I look for trends.
When I see the same thing coming up again and again from different people on different platforms, I can try to mention it in a podcast or video and thereby respond to many people at the same time even when not possible to personally respond to each one individually.
Anyway, thanks for your blog post - it did make me think - and respond with my two cents too.
Best regards,
L.D. Sewell
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Is it maybe to practice writing blogs, get inspiration and improve our writing skills?. I thought I would post as a practice and a reminder of what I need to tell my new audience. I dont think any of us have hours to respond on here as we should be putting in the big effort to growning our business. Having a Community of like minded people is awesome and obviously we all need to give out to get back so yes convserations must be two ways :) Thankyou for your contribution :)