Top 5 tips to making your own Happy New Year

byGail-UK

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Updated 4 years ago

This is not going to be my usual "Happy New Year one and all" message as I'm sure there will be many of those messages hitting your inboxes in the next few hours.

However, this IS going to be something that comes from my heart.

And I'll be brief. (I can have a tendency to go on a bit as anyone who has read any articles on my website will attest!!).

However, this is just really a reminder that we are all in control of our own future, and our happiness comes from within and not from without.

So here are my top 5 tips to creating your own Happy New Year

1. Understand that YOU are the only one who creates how you feel.

Other people can say and do things which you feel are designed to upset you, but no one else has the power to make you FEEL anything unless you give it to them. If a stranger in the street calls you a 'loser', you'll most probably walk by and laugh; but if your mother says the same thing, then you'll most probably take it more seriously and start to question yourself, wonder if she's right and pretty soon you'll be allowing yourself to feel fairly bad about the whole thing. But understand that it is YOU who is making the judgment here, regardless of your mother. So why not treat both in the same way and brush it off and laugh? Because it is YOU who has the power to make yourself feel happy or sad. YOU and only YOU!

2. Find happiness regardless of the conditions you find yourself in

There is ALWAYS something you can focus on that will make you feel better in any given situation, so find that and focus on it. Never focus on the things that are making you feel bad. That will only attract more of what you are focusing on, which is something that makes you feel bad. Find a way to look at the small, general things around you and to find gratitude for those. It could be the fact that you see the sun rise every day, or the appreciation of the wonderful natural world that surrounds us all, or a song you love, or a pet you look after. Find pleasure in the little things, and the larger things will look after themselves.

Make sure that everything you say and do to others (and especially to yourself) is sent with love and from a place of appreciation. Even when expressing a concern about someone, you can either express it with love or with a more negative emotion. For instance, you could say "I hate the way you do that (whatever it is), or you could say "I know you to be a good person, and I'm sure that you have the best intentions when you do (that), but you might find you get a better response if you approached it slightly differently....." Focus on appreciating things and you'll find you yourself, will get a better response too.

4. Love yourself, first and foremost

Although this may on the surface sound like a 'selfish' thing to do, when you understand what it really means, you'll understand that it is the basis of true happiness. For a start, you are the only one with you for the entiety of your life - from the day you're born to the day you die, it's YOU. And continuing from point one above, if you do not learn to love and appreciate yourself for the wonderful and amazing human being that you truly are, you will begin to question and doubt yourself, and you will no longer need your mother (or father, teacher, friend, enemy) to tell you that you are a 'loser' because you will become your own worst enemy and start telling it to yourself! And then, you'll start to believe it! So stop, take a step back, and be kind to yourself this New Year. You truly are an amazing individual with talents to offer in a way that is absolutely unique on the planet, indeed, in the universe. So be kind to you. You will find that when you do, you have so much more to offer to everyone else.

5. Spread your joy

When you have found and created your own happiness, then spread it around to others. Many people are looking to find happiness outside of themselves: perhaps in a new car, a new job, house, location, relationship.......the list is endless. But having found the true nature of happiness, and knowing that it comes from WITHIN, then you can pass that knowledge on to others; not in a didactic, lecturing way, but by example. And when you live your true happiness, others will ask how you do it........and then you can enlighten them.

Happy New Year to one and all.

Gail