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One thing that hit me today (not literally of course) was how negative other people can be about your ideas and your passions, especially when it comes to things like Wealthy Affiliate and trying to change your life for the better.

Now I've only been here a couple of months, but in that time, some of the comments I have heard include:

"You can't make a living out of blogging"

"Affiliate marketing is not legal, it's like a pyramid scheme"

"Oh no, another one of your hair-brained ideas"

"Why aren't you just working more at your proper job?"

Now of course, whilst I appreciate that each and every one of us is entitled to our own opinion, I am also aware that I have a choice about which of these 'opinions' I give any weight or credit to and which ones I do not. And needless to say, I have a well-rehearsed counter argument for all of the above comments. Sometimes I offer them and enter into a debate, and at other times, I just agree to disagree in the knowledge that we are so far apart in our outlook and beliefs, that anything I do say in my 'defence', will fall on deaf ears, (like the seeds falling on the proverbial thorny path) so I save my energy and smile and walk away politely.

I could write a whole book on how important it is to follow your own path and resist the negative energies of others, and I have done just that on my website. However today I just wanted to remind everyone about the importance of this in a brief blog.

So remember lovely people:

No one else is you. No one else knows what you know, has experienced what you have, feels what you feel and wants for you, the things that you want for yourself. No one else has access to your innermost dreams and desires and no one else has the energy or commitment to follow them through like you do. No matter how close these people are in terms of family or friend ties, they just do not and cannot know the full picture. Nor is it their job to know. They can look out for you, they can advise you and they can help you. But ultimately it is YOU who is in control of your own life and only YOU can make the decisions to take you where you want to be. And that is the right and proper way it should be.

Indeed, if you are looking for approval from other people before you can be happy with your life and your decisions, then you have already given up some of your own power to create your own bliss and be in charge of your own life. Because at some level, you are saying "I'll be happy IF I make you happy". And what we really should be saying is "I'll be happy AND THEN I can be a shining example to help make you happy." There is a subtle but very important difference here.

Other people can pour cold water on your desires and dreams for any number of reasons: jealousy, misunderstanding, ignorance, fear that it will take you away from them and what they want....etc. etc. But those are problems and issues in their own perception that they will need to address, rather than trying to get you to change from your path. And that may be difficult for them to hear, but it is important that we remember it none the less.

Stay focussed on your own goals and do not let others distract you or draw you away from them if you know in your heart of hearts that they are right for you.

Do not give in to the negative energy or thoughts of others, but stay true to yourself and you cannot go wrong. If what you are doing fills you with excitement and energy, creates a joyful feeling and a buzz that you haven't felt for a long time, then you have found your right path, my friend. And do not let anyone else dissuade you from it!

Wishing you all a joyful journey on whatever path you choose. :)

Gail


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I've been involved in affiliate marketing for nearly 20 years. My husband and a few close friends understand what I do; beyond that, well.... no one does. I learned long ago to just say that my job was in internet marketing and leave it at that. People often condemn something that they don't understand. Don't waste your time on them. When you are wealthy and successful, then they'll make the true effort to understand what you do! And hope that you'll teach it to them as well!

Good points Jeannine. I share my work with my daughters and I'm even in the process of slowly creating a site each for both of them which I hope I can pass over to them when they are old enough. Everyone else is on their own path and that is fine by me. Thanks for taking the time to read and respond. Have a wonderful Sunday. Gail

I have a friend who helped his son launch his first site at age 15. The boy chose something he really liked as a topic, and soon was making a few hundred dollars a month (Dad was really good at affiliate marketing strategies!) When the young man left for college, the site was still producing and came in pretty handy for those campus expenses.

That is great that you are teaching your daughters about this at a young age. Beyond the how-to's of affiliate marketing, you are teaching them many other valuable lessons such as self-discipline, strategic thinking, and patience. Kudos!

Thank you for sharing this. It amazes me the sheer amount of people that cast such a negative light on those who want to try to carve out a better life for themselves by getting out of the same old rut we've always been told we have to live life by. Wealthy Affiliate definitely is the alternative many people are looking for.

In my opinion, most people only attack out of defence so there negativity says more about the way they are frustrated at themselves than with us. Have a wonderful and positive day. :)

Unbelievable!!!. I was just discussing with one of my relatives. I was complaining to him how my ex-colleagues were making fun of my new adventure. And telling me I would never perform better than them

I then I log into my WA account and read this. This is really divine providence.

Of course, they don't see beyond the horizons of their own office, and quickly judge others for being DARING and getting out the comfort zone. Those people will always come by to check on you, to make sure that YOU ARE NOT ACHIEVING YOUR DREAMS AND PROVING THEM RIGHT.

That's the world in which we live today. They don't want to progress, and the saddest part, THEY DON'T WANT TO SEE OTHERS PROGRESS

But guess what, WE ARE NOT THEM, AND WILL NEVER BE.

SO WE STICK TO OUR CRAZY DREAMS. WE DON'T HAVE TIME TO LOOK AT OTHERS

You got it Laurine. And of course, you know you brought this message to yourself, don't you? i agree with you completely - everyone is different and we must be careful not to judge them too. Each to their own path. If we want them to accept us, then we must also accept them for who they are even if our beliefs and values are different. For that's what makes us truly unconditional-loving beings. Have a wonderful, wonderful day.

Thanks. Have a wonderful day too

Beautiful post, Gail. Oh yeah... those all sound very familiar. I pay no attention to the naysayers. I am not following their path, I am following the path of those who have gone before me in this industry, those in the know. When there is too much negativity around me I either get around positive friends or focus on the success stories of other Mom bloggers. Having read so many income reports of Top Mom Bloggers I absolutely know, without a doubt, the only way for me to "fail" is to quit.

Well said. Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment. Gail

Perfect! I've gotten some of the same comments. But I love what I do here on WA and I've learned so much in only a few months time. It does take a lot of time and dedication but when you're passionate about something (and making that something work) you WILL make it happen...just like what YOU'RE doing Gail:) Good luck to you and everyone here at WA!:)

Thank you. And lots of great things coming right back at you. :)

Great post Gail. I have been through thick and thin throughout my life that I just let comments slip off my back. I spend my energies on people who want to better themselves. Those who believe it and want it bad enough, no further explanation is necessary. Those who are negative and call it scam, no explanation will suffice.

How true. Have a wonderful day. Thanks for reading. Gail

Thank you.. that is something I needed to hear right before I get to face my family. You see I love them to death but they have seen me get scammed so many times. I hear many of the negative comments from them because they feel online work is just play and not some place you can earn money. You can only do that at a brick and mortar job. I want to show them that Wealthy Affiliate is different!!

Thanks Elaine. Good luck with your relatives. Remember there are many types of families and your Wealthy Affiliate family will be with you all the way. :)

Make it happen!
David

I hear your heart Gail.
What if they would just support you in this venture and trust you on this. However, most people mean well, but we all have to know what is best for us ultimately.
You are a grown woman and with that comes the respect you deserve :).

Great post!

David

Thanks David. My heart has a voice, yes. And I try to listen to it as often as I can! :)

Hey there - like you, I used to have some of those comments as well when I started. Right now, I barely ever tell anyone what I do!! I'm pretty vague about it because, most people don't really want to know details, (I see their eyes glaze over). I only talk about it to my closest friends and family members now. People are generally completely unaware of how people make money online :)

This was so amazing. I've never read such honest and powerful words like this before. I feel the same way when I try to tell people why I dropped out of college to pursue my ambitions of making my own money and becoming rich. They try telling me about rich-person logic using middle-class logic, it's hilarious. And even after what I'm learning, I'm developing a whole different mindset about how money is made and the difference between the rich and the middle-class/poor. Thank you so much for posting this and I'll be sure to follow you back. We're in this together! =)

Glad you like it Eric. And hope it helps to inspire you towards your own dreams. :)

Meant to say also, that you can read more about it here:
https://howtocreateyourownlife.com/dance-as-though-no-one-is-watching-follow-your-own-path

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