Receiving Compliments And Appreciation

Last Update: October 22, 2021

Receiving Compliments

Today, I want us to talk about a simple topic that every one of us encounters every day regardless of where we live, what we do, or who we are.

As you might have noticed by my writings, that I’m more of a spontaneous writer. That’s why my topics are randomly chosen. And I have a reason for it. Part of which is that I write based on my observations, impulse, experience, and interactions with people, and my inner prompts.

For instance, yesterday, at a grocery shopping, I met a very beautiful lady, when I say beautiful, the lady is the epitome of beauty!. I will say that she was wonderfully and beautifully created. I tell you, I was mesmerized by her beauty; to the point atypical me, I have to call her attention as she was about entering her car. I said to her, “excuse me please, she stopped, then I said please permit me to tell you that you’re so beautiful, that I admire your beauty, and also said to her please don’t feel embarrassed.

She smiled and responded, “Oh me? I don’t think that I’m beautiful," I’m too tall and too big..” she said. Then she finally smiled and said thank you! though.”

You see, experiences and impulses like these or my inner prompts lead me to sometimes to write. Ok, Let us talk about compliments..

Do You Sincerely Offer and Receive Compliments?

Do you know that there are some people who don’t know how to offer or receive compliments graciously and assertively?

For some people their reasons can be that they are not beautiful enough, smart enough, learned enough, handsome, or rich enough, old or young enough and the list goes on.

Another reason why many people don’t accept compliments easily is that they do not value what they possess in terms of skills, abilities, talents, status, etc.

Other people don’t receive or offer compliments easily because they don’t want to feel obligated to anyone. Instead, the person would prefer to ignore people, friends, family members, and spouses.

When we reject and bluff off genuine compliments, we make it difficult to share healthy relationships with others. Do we really know how important it is to develop positive relationships with people?

Good relationships don’t just happen, it starts with some intentional acts. Giving compliments, encouragement, and praise is powerful to our psychological needs. Even though some of us don’t know how to receive compliments and appreciation assertively, just like the beautiful lady I told you about.

Giving and receiving compliments is very important because it helps a person understand his or her personal characteristics, how outstanding, unique he or she is. Compliments can help reinforce good behaviors and eliminate bad behaviors, as we talk about positive and negative reinforcements in psychology.

Another observation I have made is that oftentimes, some people can tell others about someone’s good qualities, but decide not to offer a direct compliment to the person admired. What do you think is the reason? Share with us.

Let me end it here by giving a few tips: when offering compliments, make it brief, and make it specific. Let it be sincere and timely.

Can you think of other proper ways to offer and receive compliments?

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Jocelyn30 Premium
Sarah being you is also lovely, as you are not shy away what you feel and when you see great things that need to compliment!

Respectfully blunt which is taking a time to appreciate someone also a generous human being! One quality that misunderstood sometimes but if you have a clean conscious in the end it will shine your uniqueness!

Different generations but respectfully kind is the best!

Nice of you to share your observations!

Joce
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favorme Premium
Joce, Thank you so much, I appreciate your comment and your honesty
Have a blessed weekend!

Sarah.
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Jocelyn30 Premium
You are welcome Sarah:)

Likewise
joce
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Dadaz123 Premium
Great post, Sarah! Giving compliments is good for both the giver and the receiver as you have rightly shown. When you give compliments, it makes people feel good and want to be around you. For the receiver, it helps boost their motivation and performance.
Harmless as it is, not everybody is comfortable with giving or receiving compliments
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favorme Premium
Dadaz, I greatly appreciate you. You're an excellent speaker(writer). I hope you receive it as a sincere compliment:-)
Thanks, for your valuable contribution!
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Zoopie Premium
A very nice blog. I agree, we should allow ourselves to be open to both compliments and criticisim. However we are living in a very PC world where the normal response is “ I am offended “
Thanks
Stephen
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favorme Premium
Stephen, thank you so much for your honest contribution to the post. Can I ask, what do PC stands for? You're right, we are not living in normal times. People find it hard to be real with one another. But we have to do our best to live our best life and follow our conscience regardless.
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Zoopie Premium
PC. Political correctness. When people can not say manhole cover because it is sexist. A people hole cover just doesn’t do it for me. Lol.
Stephen
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favorme Premium
OMG, I'm glad I asked. Lol. Indeed, PC is a big problem. A situation where the wrong is called right and right wrong.
Thanks, Steve again!
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ValerieJoy Premium Plus
A very interesting post. It is important that we know how to give and receive compliments. When I was young, compliments were difficult for me to receive. Eventually, I learned to accept them gracefully.

Thank you very much, Sara. Your post brought back memories to me.

Best wishes :)

Valerie
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favorme Premium
Unquestionably, many of us are not good at giving and receiving compliments and appreciation. The good news is that we can always improve or change. I'm still learning,
Thank you so very much, Valerie, for your very candid comment.
Have a blessed weekend!

Sarah.
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ValerieJoy Premium Plus
My pleasure, Sara and thanks so much for your response.
Wishing you a blessed weekend, too.
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JeffreyBrown Premium
Sometimes I do, and sometime I don't, Sarah, but I recognize the importance of them!

Have an excellent Frisatsu!

Jeff😎
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favorme Premium
I'm glad that you recognize the value of giving and receiving compliments. I hope you do it more often.
Thanks as always!
Have a blessed weekend!

Sarah.
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JeffreyBrown Premium
I do too, Sarah!

Enjoy your weekend Frisatsu!

Jeff
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