Keeping Agreements

Last Update: November 16, 2021

Keeping promises

Today, we are going to briefly discuss the issue of breaking agreements. I heard a story of a young man whose parents divorced when he was a toddler. As you should expect, this toddler lived with his mother. But his father who is shiftless, would occasionally zoom in on a motorcycle to visit his son, showering him with all kinds of gifts, some useful and some not at the boys’ age and life.

So, with all the things that the boy receives whenever the father visits him, he was conditioned to expect his father’s weekend’s visits and he was always excited; up to the point that he will skip his meals just to wait for his father’s visits.

Then, see what happens, with no information, his father would not show up. And this breaks the poor boy’s heart. The mother would try to console him, but this young boy’s heart was broken. And this happened several times. To cut the long story short, the effect of the father not keeping to his promises to this boy, is that now he has grown up, he hardly keep agreements with people in his life, and business. The question becomes, is it inevitable that one repeats the patterns of bad examples of our so called role models, influencers, teachers, or partners?

We have to remember that agreements, to whoever you made it must be honored. Whether to yourself or to others. It takes a conscious commitment. That’s why in some serious relationships like marriage, before we commit, we must be very sure, and take into account so many factors.

I can tell you this, I’m a person that doesn’t make descisons easily. Because I know that entering in for me is going to be as hard as exiting, based on my personality traits and belief systems. I believe that this might be true for some of us. We have the intelligence and the discernment to know what we are willing and not willing to do and not do, to provide and not provide at any time. For instance, it is not a life of integrity to agree with someone that you will meet at 3 p.m. whatever time zone, and by 6p.m. you never show up, and you never give any information of why.

I want to submit to you, that our relationships be it social, business, political, and spiritual can flourish if we can pay attention to how we keep or break agreements. Please, before you commit, ask yourself some questions, for instance, is this something I will carry through with? If I fail to, how will it damage myself and others? As always, your feedback is highly appreciated!

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muslimah Premium
It's essential to keep to agreements and best to avoid making one in haste because we might not be able to keep to it.
Thanks for the share, Sara.
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favorme Premium
Muslimah, thanks so much for your nice contribution. You said it so well, that it is "Best to avoid making making agreements that one knows he or she cannot keep.
I appreciate your comment. Have a wonderful week!
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FKelso Premium Plus
You have made such a good point. It is very important to honor our agreements (by the way, when I first looked at your title, thought it said "keeping arguments." No, not good...keeping agreements is very important. It illustrates your integrity and degree of commitment. If you keep agreements, you are less apt to hurt others.
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favorme Premium
Thanks so much Fran for your nice comment. I'm glad that the title wasn't misleading. I appreciate your comment !
Have a blessed week!
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Zoopie Premium
Beautiful work, we reap what we sow. Always follow through on promises, that shows your heart.
Thanks
Stephen
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favorme Premium
Thanks so much Stephen for your kind comment as always. Yes, we have to observe the Golden Rules regardless, "Do unto others as you would like them to do for you."
Have a blessed week!
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emarla Premium
I agree with your words. We must honor all of our commitments and if for some reason, it becomes impossible then we need to proactively make it a point to communicate with our partners of business and life.
Thanks for sharing,
Erlene
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favorme Premium
Thanks so much Erlene, for your excellent contribution. I appreciate it!
Have a blessed week!
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JeffreyBrown Premium
An interesting story, Sarah, and a more important result that we should all consider! My word, i.e. agreement is my bond, and I aim to keep it!

Enjoy the rest of your day, my friend!

Jeff
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favorme Premium
I appreciate you greatly Jeff, and thanks for your kind comment. I believe that it is better to be slow in making commitments of any kind than committing fast and latter disappointing others expectations.
For instance, right now as I write I have someone from here who you can't take serious his agreement with you because he can't keep his words. How can two work together except they agree1
Thanks once again, and enjoy your days!
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JeffreyBrown Premium
You're very welcome, Sarah! I appreciate the time you took writing such a thoughtful post! I hope that you had an excellent Tuesday!

Jeff
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