Are You Open to Suggestion?
This is a good personal question we need to ask ourselves and come up with an honest answer. Probably some of us are perfectionists, and one of the characteristics of a perfectionist is his or her defensiveness in the face of criticism. Why so? It's because criticism will point out any kind of imperfection or flaws, and this is something no perfectionist wants to accept or admit.
But then, if we look around us, we will agree that it is not only the perfectionists that hate accepting criticism and suggestion from others. There are many people who find it very difficult to truly be open to suggestions. And for such people, they always end up paying a high price. I have such people around me.
When we refuse to accept constructive criticisms, we wall up our lives, and by so doing we potentially miss ideas, and as well as repel other people who may serve as our destiny helpers. By so doing we deprive ourselves of intimacy, as well as self-growth.
Yesterday, I was tested with what I'm talking about here. Here is what happened, I posted an article and requested for WA comment, later I got a sharp critique of my article. I never received such kind of feedback before. I was rattled. On second thought, I didn't want to approve it or reply. I left the screen on for a while, after a few minutes, I filtered my thoughts and decided to accept the criticism.
Before then, I went and had a second look at my post, and discovered that I did not proofread the entire article., and that earned me a public rebuke from one of the sharp minds/eyes/mouths out there. What I did was to reply to the guy by praising him for helping me to be more responsible with my publications.
So, through this experience, I learned a few things about my sensitivity to criticisms, also learned how not to be quick to respond to a negative remark without rephrasing it, and putting it in context. And, more so, I learned how to turn my perceived weakness into strength based on my reply to my critic.
With this, I encourage us to always have an open mind when dealing with people and situations.