I Am Frustrated.

byegonsarv

4.1K followers

Updated 10 years ago

Sometimes it happens.

I am frustrated.

I don't know about you but this is how I feel sometimes:

When I read some really good blog post I am excited as I learn great new things, techniques, etc. which I can apply.

But then when I look at my present situation the reality hits me. I am so much behind, there are so many things to do, yet I don't want unlimited amount of time.

And this frustrates me. It's kind like impatience too. People have built their websites for years, studied, worked hard, sweated for years. Yet I would like to get this final product, a polished, well oiled website quickly.

When I consider my situation, there are so many things that I need to do that I don't even know where to start. It adds an extra amount of frustration.

Do Something Else!

There is one thing that I have learned in recent years. I have found that working hard gives me a high feeling of satisfaction. What frustrates me, is when things don't go my way. But then... Maybe I can do something else.

I have another, unfinished project. I had promised to my kids that in Indonesia I would build them a playhouse. Now I am in the middle of the process.

So when I felt frustrated with my website, this is what I did.

I just stood up and walked away from the computer. I went out and continued my wood work.

Working on my playhouse allows me to:

1. Have some physical work, which is good.

2. Take time with my kids. They too like to be with me and play around, give me tools, etc.

3. Think. I can think about my next steps online, website, etc.

So while working on my playhouse I started to think that in fact, good things take time to build. Even if you are absolute top in the world. So much more for me.

At least this is what usually happens.

You don't believe?

Look at these few examples:

1. Many athletes who compete on Olympic Games, prepare 4 full years with a single goal - to compete and win Olympics.

2. Or take Formula 1, no 1 Racing series in the world. F1 long time reporter James Allen just recently wrote in his blog post about the struggling Ferrari team:

"It looks very much as though 2015 will be a transition year for Ferrari as they struggle to close the gap to the benchmark Mercedes chassis and power unit. The latter will probably take longer than the former."

As for the Ferrari's star driver Alonso who is about to move to another team next season, James Allen wrote this:

"As for Alonso, the two-time world champion is clearly weighing up a McLaren Honda offer. It’s a big decision as it’s probably the last move of his career and he needs to be sure that the package will deliver over the next three years, by which time he will be 36."

In the another blog post mr Allen wrote about Alonso:

"Alonso will be looking more at his best prospect for 2016, not 2015, as next year will be Honda’s first year back, while Mercedes is believed to have another step on the power unit to keep it ahead of the field."

Please note that both Honda and Ferrari are BIG players with plenty of cash in hand. Yet both of them have rather long term goals. Their goal is to succeed in 2016, NOT in 2015!

Alonso, Ferrari's current start driver earns tens of millions of dollars per year. His goals at the moment seem to be able to win in 2016 or 2017. NOT in 2015.

Or take Mercedes F1 team. This year they have been pretty much unbeatable. They have played in the league of their own. Yet it took 6 years (six years) for Mercedes to design and build the power unit that has given them all these victories this year.

What do I learn from here?

If REALLY BIG players on our Planet do planning and thinking like that, why do I get frustrated after just less than a year of work?

Then I remembered yet another thing.

Last weekend I took my kids and to our local beach here in Kendari, SE-Sulawesi. The sea was calm and water was warm. Sun was shining and we enjoied our time.

Yet while I was playing with my kids in the water, I suddenly remembered the African proverb from one of my blog posts:

„Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors.“ – African Proverb

I was looking at the calm sea and thought:

"Right. If the seas were always like that, how on earth would you become a skilful sailor? Sailors get their skills on stormy seas where wind and waves are against them. It's tough but hard conditions make you strong and skilful.

Still Frustrated?

No! When thinking about these things my frustration disappeared. I got a new portion of motivation and excitement to continue with my website.

Then I login to WA and find davyrobot answering to somebody:

"And remember that Rome wasn't built in a day...but they were laying bricks everyday!"

Great, isn't it? Lay bricks every day and this way you move towards your goals. Steadily.

My Recommendation

If you find yourself in a similar situation, maybe it is good for you too. To stand from computer and do something else. Go, run or swim or work in the garden or... Do something that requires physical activity. Meanwhile your brain can have a rest and you can calm down. You are able to think clearly again and analyze your situation better.

And finally. Don't be afraid of hardships.

„If I had a formula for bypassing trouble, I would not pass it round. Trouble creates a capacity to handle it. I don’t embrace trouble; that’s as bad as treating it as an enemy. But I do say meet it as a friend, for you’ll see a lot of it and had better be on speaking terms with it.“ – Oliver Wendell Holmes