The Entitlement Mentality - Stay Away From It

Last Update: Oct 5, 2022

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Just to make sure I got it right I asked the all knowing sage Google this question. Here is the screenshot of the response I got.

Sorry, until Wealthy Affiliate fixes the image import tool we have to live with this. I did my best to capture the whole screenshot for this blog. It didn't work which I was not surprised about.

On a side note, at Kyle's class this evening, he brought up the topic of the updates Wealthy Affiliate is making, I took this opportunity to tell him about this problem. Kyle asked me to send him a PM describing my experience. I did, using screenshots, and await his response. I feel confident that this issue will be resolved.

Google Definition Of Entitlement Transcribed

The entitlement mentality is defined as a sense of deservingness or being owed a favor when little or nothing has been done to deserve special treatment. It's the “you owe me” attitude. Entitlement is a narcissistic personality trait.

Do You Agree?

Wow! I think Google got it left, right and center. What hit me was the last sentence. I never made that connection before. But now that makes perfect sense. It's like having the attitude of being more important than others. So we are entitled to special things.

Sadly our world is filled with people like that. You can read about them often in the news.

Can you add to this based on your own experience?

Why Am I Bringing This Up?

There is a train of thought that applies to the case when building our business. When we spend hours, days, weeks, months, and years working hard on building our business aren't we entitled to big results? And when the results don't come, don't we feel that the world owes us something?

I use the word "we" metaphorically speaking. I am not implying that any of us feel that way.

May I ask you a question? Have you ever felt that way, even just a little? Have you noticed this attitude in the way questions are asked when members are not seeing the results they expected?

Let's Get One Thing Straight

Nobody owes us anything. The saying if it's to be it's up to me applies in business. Until we take full responsibility for our actions and the results we get, I am sorry to say success will always be elusive.

Sure, situations can arise that are out of our control and can cause us grief. But there are ways to handle it.

Situations That Need Special Attention

For example, this business is clearly not for everyone. Here are some examples that I conjured up.

  • When we experience a serious long term illness, the most important thing is to focus on our health and put working on our business aside until we get better.
  • When natural disasters strike, it is easy to blame that for problems with our business. I suggest being accepting of the situation and don't lay blame. In time, when the disaster subsides we can pick things up and move on.
  • There are times when we ask for help. For example, when we have problems and reach out to other members. We are fortunate that people take the time to make suggestions. OK, we try them out and they don't work. Do we blame those who helped? No. It is still our responsibility to make sure that the solution provided is right for us.
  • Outsourcing is a vital option to scale up our businesses. If the people we hire don't meet up to our expectations do we blame them? We should not. Here's why. It was our job to ensure that we picked the right talent for the job. The chances are when we don't get the desired result, we didn't do the vetting process well enough.
  • When updates are done to improve a platform, glitches can occur. It happens when we depend so much on technology these days. Some of us are currently experiencing issues with the updated WA Platform. Do we blame WA? I feel we should not. Rather than blame and complain, it is far better to work with Kyle and Carson to help explain the problem clearly so that it can be fixed. The issue is often in how the communication process is handled. Soon enough everything will be fixed.

Expecting Others To Solve Our Problems

When we expect others to solve our problems, that is a form of the entitlement mentality. That attitude can do more damage to our business than you realize.

I stated earlier that we have to accept full responsibility for our business. If we don't, the chances are we will get forever stuck in a rut with the prospect of failure in our future.

When we dump the entitlement mentality, it will feel like a breath of fresh air. Clarity will reign. In that kind of environment, guess what usually happens.

We can start to see the solutions we seek. Often, they are starring us in the face.

Since our minds were all transfixed on laying blame on others for our situation, we caused our business to stall. 

Attitude Is King, Queen, Prince or Princess

Yes indeed. Having a positive and "can do" attitude will provide us with the resolve to do the right things to succeed. Some will succeed sooner than later. We all have our own pace.

However, if we want results sooner rather than later, we have to inject a sense of urgency in what we do.

I bet, if you quizzed all the successful members at WA, (you know who they are), you will find they all applied a sense of urgency into their actions.

The best way to make urgency work successfully is to focus on one thing at a time. Then complete it before going on to the next. Set a deadline and meet it.

This is not easy and we all can fail in meeting this high standard. That is the name of the game. We pick up where we left off and move on.

Most importantly, never feel entitled.

What Do You Think?

Please leave me your comments below.

I wish you much success in your affiliate marketing journey.

Cheers.

Edwin

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Well said Edwin... those who possess an entitlement mentality will rarely go out and put in the hard graft for themselves...

Are we all like this on occasion??

I don't know the answer to that but, for me personally.. I would be lying if I said I have never felt this entitlement at least a few times in my life... am I proud of this??

Absolutely not... but, we are all humans after all my friend!

Hi Nick,

Thanks for commenting. Your honesty says a great deal about you. I imagine that most of us at sometime in our lives expected something for nothing. As long as we don’t let this way of thinking take root, we’re in good shape.

All the best to you.

Edwin

You're most welcome Edwin and thanks for the kind words my friend...

I have an easy out for me with regards to feeling entitled.
I treat people how I want to be treated and if they don't reciprocate, I treat them how I want to be treated.
I am grateful for even the littlest of things and especially for anything that I causes me to ask for help.
The effort put in to help, no matter the size is more than I had before asking for help.
So, I definitely agree!!

Stephen

I love your attitude Stephen. Makes a lot of sense.

Cheers!

Edwin

Thank you Edwin, for your kind words! I credit my mom, she had a heart as big as the moon!!

Stephen

Hi, Edwin

Great post! You really covered it all!

I’ll add my opinion here.

Yes, entitlement can definitely have a narcissistic component, but the other thing that fosters it is the society we live in..

We’ve all seen non-narcissistic people believe they are entitled, simply because that has become the “norm.”

For example, in America, we live in an “on-demand” culture, which has become a basic entitlement

What I like most about being successful is that I earned it on my own. That feeling of accomplishment is what makes it special.

Frank

Hi Frank,

It’s all about instant gratification these days. That’s what makes it hard for some members here to accept the importance of patience and consistence work.

You know how it is.

Cheers.

Edwin

Hi Edwin,

Awesome post. I have to agree that the entitlement mentality is not going to get you anywhere. If a person is sitting back and waiting for things to happen for them, they will usually be waiting for a very long time.

One must put in the long hours and hard work to reap the rewards.

Have a wonderful day!

Hi Brandaley,

Thanks for chiming in. Glad you liked this post.

Cheers!

Edwin

You are welcome, Edwin.

Have a wonderful day!

I struggle with this daily and I’m working on this daily. My ego can be extreme sometimes, but hopefully my will can tame my ego. And this is not because I’ve had an easy life, not at all, I think it’s because we all probably have this duality within us and I feel like it’s almost a daily battle of who’s going to win today …
Anyway.. it’s hard!!! And I’m working on it! But it is testing my patience ha ha ha

Hi Anabella,

You have a rare quality. Being honest with yourself and knowing your strengths and weaknesses.

You have what it takes to succeed in your goals.

I wish you all the best.

Cheers!

Edwin

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