Venomous NaySayers - Get Away from Them!
One Night, I Awoke to This
[...] I could hear her through the door, "Ye know, you gotta use cold love on 'im...Ummm...hummm...ye know whaddi mean? Ye gotta knock him off his high horse and bring 'im outa da clouds...we all gotta do it...that's reality...what makes that guy so high-and-mighty? He aint makin' any money with it! When I was a young'un I dinnit sit around on my laurals...I couldn't do that to my mama! I got out, whatever the weather and hunned me a JOB!...Ummm...hummmm! I been out there makin' money since I was knee-high to a grasshopper! Ummm...hummm! You're wrong lettin' 'im take advantage of you like that...ye know...Ummm...Hummmm! ... He can get out there and dig ditches...wash dishes...like the rest of us! Ain't nuthin' wrong with that boy...exept he's lazy and spungin' off-a you...ye know what I mean...You gotta put yer foot down and take that computer away from him...ummm...hummm!"
quack...quack...quack...and more quack... My head was spinning when I heard this rubbish! The dialog above isn't verbatim, but it's pretty darn close! [...]
...From a By-Gone Time in the Camp of the NaySayers
This came from my Journal back in the early days of my membership here. I was looking for something in this section of the Journal and came across it and wanted to write about it.
The person speaking on the phone (speaker on) to the one that was hosting me temporarily, managed to twist his mind to hers and the wedge was driven. What I thought would be greener grass on the other side of the fence was a pit of vipers! Believe me, that trip turned into one of the worst episodes during my membership here. It wasn't the only thing I was dealing with!
Those days are gone now...
I had to deal with naysayers for most of my time at WA, folks saying I was being taken to the cleaners by Wealthy Affiliate, others just like this woman, "He's lazy and you shouldn't put up with it!"
It didn't end with returning to Florida after this. I went from one camp right into another!
Finally, two years ago, I broke free from it all! I have a new set of serious problems that are holding me back but today I'm in full control of what goes down and hacking away at the issues.
It's In the Past Daniel, Why Bring It Up?
It may be in MY past, but I guarantee, there are folks here trying to build businesses in crappy environments like this. There is nothing more degrading and counter-productive than living with people who are non-supportive of what you are trying to do and try to undermine your efforts because they think it's for your own good.
If it's a wife or a husband that is non-supportive, it can invariably spell doom for the person trying to learn and build an online business, but for most anybody else, there are outlets. Even under the worst circumstances when you find yourself at the mercy of naysayers, you must do what entrepreneurs do - Find a way... Any way... to get loose from it. Eventually I found it necessary to walk downtown to the public library days to do the work where I wouldn't be seen by nosy neighbours sitting behind a computer. Eventually I boarded the bus back to Florida...
When I look back to that part of my Journal, I can see I've come a long way. It took me a long time to do this. I had to first recognize what I was dealing with. Once I did, I took action. I had to know first, that it was necessary to depart familiarity and move on into the unknown. I was then, able to move on.
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Thanks for sharing this! It is sometimes therapeutic to look at a journal and see where we were and how far we have come since then! Getting away from toxic people is a good thing also!
Absolutely. I know I wouldn't be anywhere near where I am now, and suspect I'd been a homeless street person, or living in the woods like I began doing in the 1980s. I might be caught up in drugs and have never found Christianity, which in itself has taken me farther in life than I had ever dreamed could happen.
Keeping a journal helps you get things done because as a writer, you want closure in things you write about. You don't want unfinished stories, at least I don't. Sometimes it can cause a little perfectionism, and this is something to keep in check. My goal has been to get all the incomplete projects and obligations knocked out before going back at my business, but I think not. I will begin back at my business, updating my website and campaigns and so forth, as I am able to. As the projects do get completed, I will be able to put more and more into it.
Meanwhile, I've gotten rid of the bad stuff I dealt with throughout the first four years here.
I had writings on here that were little more than negative rantings when I was suffering through the grief, but that's gone now. It has been. Nobody bothers me about spending my time the way I do. I just make sure whatever I do isn't wasteful. I'm not perfect, but it's getting better.
Sometimes I don't think I've progressed, but when I look in the Journal, that indicates that I have, and it also indicates where I've slipped. When I pass, my Journal will probably get discarded, but one thing is for sure, it has been a big help during my lifetime.
Congratulations! Negative people love to bring down others. Today, I just say "Thank you for sharing." Then I move on. But it didn't come easy, had to learn what negative even looked or sounded like. Got it now.
Thanks for the topic and information.
Sharon
I really feel for some folks who are trying to move up from unfulfilling jobs they must go to every day, but have spouses that see no value in building a business, or a "consumer" trying to wend his way up out of mediocrity, to something he or she enjoys doing.
I owe what I have learned to my early discoveries of the home-business movement on the Internet of the early 2000s. It was a long progression of not know where I was going, and getting little bits and pieces, often contradictory. By the time I found Wealthy Affiliate, I made headway and had much more of an idea what I was looking for. That's why I did not hesitate when I found WA. Only funds kept me from joining right away. I hope WA stands and never sways from the philosophy Kyle & Carson founded it upon.
Just realize what a good thing we have now and never take it for granted. If something would ever happen to this training platform, there is nothing, repeat, NOTHING that could ever come close to replacing it. It's legacy would stand in history however as a phenomenon like no other in business.
Thank you for sharing this with us Daniel - it's good to remove yourself from toxic people and environments :)
I do my best to go for the best in every part of my life. I know I've been blessed and am humbly thankful for it.
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Great share and I love to look back, teaches us and keeps us moving forward.
Thanks, my friend.
It's why I started a journal back in 1973. In those days I did stuff that would get some laughs. To read what I've written back then, there's no comparison as to who I was to who I am now.
What's even better, I made recordings in the same year which recordings still survive.
In 1981, I lived with a woodsman in Maine, a very opinionated and sometimes with violent tendencies. His world was work, work, work. He expected the same from me. He demanded I destroy my writings because he saw that as foolishness. Like an idiot, I did destroy much of it, but the recordings still survive.
In 1987 I began the Journal once again, this time for use in making improvements, keeping track of accomplishments.
The Journal takes you through the harrowing times I had in Maine, until I moved to Florida.
The rest is history.
There are ups and downs, and the Journal shows this. It shows what I was thinking when I first joined Wealthy Affiliate. At this point I can see my experience has greatly increased and it's very easy for me to write stuff that will get attention (most of the time,) but I think my enthusiasm has waned since. This is where the Journal comes in. It reminds me of the times when all this was fresh on my mind, and I didn't let my circumstances stop me.
Over time, I could see that the battle was too much uphill and up stream without a paddle and is when I knew I had to make some changes in order to put out some more serious results.
Again, the Journal comes in. I keep track of what's to be done and since it's there, I go at it until it's done. Two years ago, my living conditions were horrible. I can only look back now compared to what I have now, to see what debased situation I lived in - and yet was able to start making an income from WA that has never stopped since, even though my performance has been poor.
I am doing what I feel needs to be done in order to make it come alive again like the phoenix.
This is fantastic, Happy for you.