It's Never as Good as You Think it would BE!

byDadaz123

2K followers

3 years ago

Have you ever anticipated owning something and the adrenaline rush that you experienced while waiting to take delivery of it.? Did you take time to savor this feeling? I am asking you this question because this feeling may be much better than you would feel when you finally have the object of your anticipation.

It’s never as good as you think it would be just as it’s never as bad as you think it would be.

One of the enemies of happiness is adaptation. By adaptation, I mean getting so used to a new toy or device that the novelty wears off and the excitement disappears

My three adoptive children are now asking me for a Sony PSA game player. They were wide-eyed when I presented each of them with a Dell laptop on their arrival. Of course, the laptops are from the School District and are for their remote learning. They had come from a society in which access to laptops is not commonplace. When I added analog phones on a family plan, their joy knew no bounds. Now that they have adapted to both items, they want a PSA!

Allow me to play Betty Wright of blessed memory. Even your first kiss was not as good as you had imagined it would be. There were so much bungling and hesitation that robbed it of its naturalness. Our more intimate expressions of love were not as good as we had thought the first time. It was only after successive tries that we were able to perfect the art and make it enjoyable for both parties involved. Do I have a witness in the house?

Human beings adapt to each other after staying together for a long time. That’s when you start noticing the flaws in the other person. Before then, the novelty of the relationship had blinded you to such foibles, but now that you have adapted, you can see them clearly. Some people see flaws in the other person as ‘ irreconcilable differences ‘and enough ground for divorce. I beg to differ. I see it as the unveiling of the personality so you can start work on the relationship. We need to work on our relationships. It’s like a garden. If you do not constantly work on your garden, weeds would grow.

It is at the stage of adaptation that you start peeling beyond the surface to ask questions and look for answers.

A new member of Wealthy Affiliate had a different idea on what to expect before stepping onto the portal. Perhaps he had
expected a turnaround in his situation immediately he registered, and when it did not happen fast enough, he beat a retreat. Another found there is a learning curve in place. He was not expecting to find one and that was enough to make him leave as fast as he came. I wonder what he was expecting to find in the first place though! Some magical Aladdin lamp?

The newbies who decided to remain behind are those who have chosen to stay after the honeymoon period. They were determined to roll up their sleeves and get down and dirty learning how to become an affiliate marketer step by step. They know that there is not a magic bullet and that nothing succeeds like the 3 P’s of patience, persistence, and perseverance. So they put in massive efforts and get back massive rewards in return.

Even our top-tier Affiliate Marketers are not just sitting pretty in their present positions. They had wanted it so badly; they had put in the required work and now that they are in the positions, they found out it’s not everything they had aspired for. Again, it’s never as good as you think. Just like you and I, they are getting ready for another quantum jump

So how do you keep the excitement long-term? How do you keep the surge of interest from waning?

Simply, through appreciating what you have. How many of us genuinely show appreciation for what we have? Do you remember to show appreciation for your spouse who has stood by you through thick and thin? We simply take things for granted or just take it in our stride while we long for the next adrenaline rush.

If you do not show appreciation for what you currently have, I fail to see how you would show appreciation for what you are yet to get.

Have you thought of where you were before now and given thanks? What if you were in a better position than you currently are?. Then think of the growth that you have experienced since you became a member and all the new things you now know. Think of the new possibilities this opportunity has opened up for you.

Don’t just think about it. Capture these fleeting moments in a journal so you can read and savor them.

Finally, reach out and bring somebody in. Make an effort to duplicate yourself. Bend over backward to bring in somebody and help them to become you!

Fortunately, Wealthy Affiliate provides you with the opportunity to do all three things and more. The WA blog offers you the opportunity to express gratitude in writing, the program gives you the opportunity to recruit affiliates that you can help train to duplicate you. The community offers you the opportunity to help other members who are currently experiencing what you experienced when you were at their stage of membership.

What an incredible opportunity Wealthy Affiliate offers to enable you to pay it forward and sustain that excitement you had felt when you first walked through the doors of its portal.