The Way To A Woman's Heart
It was just a comment, made in passing by a fellow teacher, but it definitely caught my attention earlier this morning...
"That's definitely the way to a woman's heart!"
I was in the process of closing my office door for a few brief moments of relaxation before beginning my day, but I know important information when I hear it, and I said as much to my colleague.
It seems a young second grade boy had said or done something which offended a second grade girl, and by way of apologizing, he had written not only a basic apology note, but had gone so far as to suggest that the young lady deserved cookies, candy, and ice-cream!
Certainly something which would be much appreciated by a second grader, but I wondered...Is that REALLY the way to a woman's heart?
I've been around for quite a few years now, and I'm not sure I've figured out the equation myself.
It's a slippery slope, to say the least.
I've heard opinions on everything from flowers, chocolates, romantic notes, poetry, washing the dishes, cleaning the house, being a good listener, foot rubs...you name it.
Still, I'm not sure. Not at all.
Maybe the way to a woman's heart varies from one woman to the next. Is it different for different cultures?
So, I figured I'd throw it open for discussion here in the community, and maybe we can all come up with some pearls of wisdom.
We guys need all the help we can get!
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I love that you had the courage to ask this question! Many thanks!
How often do we take the time to truly asks what matters to those that we love? Or simply say what do you need? Or realize we all have a different love language.
I love surprises. They show thoughtfulness and intention.
I have to say the sexiest most loving things for me, are kindness, compassion and anticipatory service.
That is what rocks my world.
Enjoy this adventure!
I do indeed. Thanks..oh and I forgot to add...listening! Giving someone the gift of your complete presence is truly the epitome of caring I think that it my list...lol.
Hi Rick, I find this post very interesting!
I think that it differs from person to person. If you know the person well enough, you will know their likes and dislikes which will help you decide what or how you're going to win her heart! I have a close friend and she does not like receiving flowers! As weird as that may sound, what makes a person happy is not the same as someone else. Get to know her personality and that would give you clues as to what she likes :)
I guess I don't know the way to a woman's heart as I've never been in a relationship in my 37 years on this planet. I've been on a couple of first dates here and there, but nothing ever develops from them. Let me tell you, it gets incredibly awkward when being around others and the conversations turned towards how they met their significant others or their crushes in high school or their first kiss and then I get asked what my experiences were like and I have none.
Wow, Brian, that is unique. I do believe there's somebody for everyone, though, so don't lose hope. There's a woman out there for you!
Love this piece chief. NICE! Personally, I don't know how anyone deals with children in an elementary school environment and I have clients that are Educator's so I see it all the time. Kudos to you sir. But I believe any number of things might be THAT way to a Woman's Heart....mine is: I bring my Woman Flowers at least 3-4 times a month, not sent, but personally brought and she melts.... I agree some women it's Chocolate or a Foot rub. My Mother, it is anyone doing the HOUSEWORK for her, which I try as often as I can to go over there and do it for her....or you know, pay someone to go do it. But, she hates strangers in her kitchen.
Sounds like you've got a handle on things, Dean. Flowers every week, and cleaning Mom's house? Wow! They better hang onto you! :)
A way to a woman's heart may be different for all but listening will tell you all you need to know! Remember what she drinks, her favorite foods and to call and give encouragement when she tells you about something big coming up!
It does the trick for me, shows he cares enough to remember even the small things :)
Oh and if it's a new relationship a good morning text will do wonders! Show her you are thinking of her when you get up.
Shannon
Thanks, Shannon. Paying attention to someone's needs is bound to make them feel cared for. :)
Hi Rick,
Nice to hear from you. This probably is different for everyone. For me it's a few simple things...kindness, tenderness and being true to your word. And humor....and purpose....and a nice smile.....and honestly...and knowing me....and intelligence....and knowing themselves.....oh my....guess it's not so few and not so simple! We want it all! Lol
Debbie
Good afternoon Rick,
You are right there are many ways to a woman's heart and having already a certain age I have seen a lot of examples.
I will tell you about something very special which happened to me.
I started talking to Michael at the beginning of June 2015. By the end of Sept., he came to visit for 12 days. In the US he had bought 2 nice jackets as we planned to go out for dinner/dance. In Malaga we bought some nice Italian going out shoes. When he left he said: I am leaving my shoes and jackets hanging here as I am coming back.
We then did not see each other for 7 months. I was invited to the US on a 3 week holiday in May 2016. He moved to Spain with all his belongings, motorbike, Thunderbird and Miss Shugar end of Aug.
Greetings from the south of Spain, Taetske
I have heard that if someone leaves something at your place, it indicates a wish to return. Things seem to have worked out well for the two of you, Taetske! Thanks for sharing. :)
The way to the woman's heart depends on what is asked of the moment and the situation.
I speak for myself.
The way to a woman's heart (.....my heart) is
-to get things done;
-to resolve issues;
-to keep her space clean and neat
-to give her "space"
-to let her sleep when badly needed
-to do something productive;
-to support her in her projects.
On the sweet "icing-on-top" stuff.......
-to have meals in fancy restos
-to travel
-to eat chocolates, raspberry cheese danish (make it Michel's please..the best in town) :D
-to visit tropical paradise like my country Philippines :D
These are the ways to a woman's heart .....well...I can only speak for myself.
Again, it all depends on what is asked of the moment
and the situation.
The best would be.....ask your partner.
And start compromising. :)))
Thank you so much, Luz-I'm definitely taking notes. You ladies are definitely complicated creatures! :)
Wow... this is dangerous territory. I thought there were rules against this type of open-ended post.... LOL. I have been married thirty plus and at ten years I figured our "I am sorry" no matter what, when, how, where, or why worked. Sometimes a little chocolate helped along the way. Jay
That's a good one, Jay, but do the ladies always have to be right? I do know they love chocolate. (Me, too!)
I am just telling you that this has been key to Renee's happiness which is key to my happiness. Jay
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Morning Rick, hope you are well.
I love to get flowers and chocolates but the thing I would love most of all is for someone to surprise me by coming and saying they have booked a trip away or just something nice like a trip to see a show.
My lot are as good as a chocolate fire guard in that if I don't do the booking or organising for things we would go nowhere or get nothing so it would be nice to have someone come and say they had done it all for me. xxxx
Just to have it all taken care of for you. :)
Definitely Rick, that would just be so nice. xxxx
I hope you get that opportunity, Cheryl! :)
Me too Rick. Xxx
:)