Monitoring the front bus loop is one of my early morning duties at the school where I work, and I'd say most of the drivers have a smile on their face, like the one in the illustration above.


There are a couple of drivers who could only be described as more serious-minded individuals, however.


Many times in the past, one particular driver has expressed displeasure over the fact that the bus driver in front of him did not pull his bus ALL THE WAY UP.

To be fair, I believe that is the policy, as dictated by the transportation department, but all drivers do not follow it as fervently as the aforementioned driver, who pulls as far up as he can, whether there are other buses there or not. (We're talking the "North Forty!")


I benefit from the exercise obtained from walking a bit further, so I don't mind. It also does not bother me if a driver does not pull his bus all the way up.

The kids get off the bus safely, one way or another.


For this particular driver, though, there seems to be an element of anger present, particularly whenever the driver in front of him does not pull his bus as far up as is humanly possible. He has complained about it to me on several occasions, and I have always met his complaints with a smile and an understanding ear.


Apparently today was the straw that broke the camel's back, as the driver became engaged in a heated discussion for approximately 10 or 15 minutes with both behavior specialists, all the while blocking other buses who were unfortunate enough to have arrived behind him.


I diplomatically stayed out of it.


To me, this kind of falls under the category of "Don't sweat the small stuff," and its companion piece of advice, "It's ALL small stuff."


Obviously it can't be small stuff all the time, but if you really consider the bottom line on things going on around you on a day-to-day basis, I think you can safely conclude that most of the time there's no point in getting bent out of shape about things which you can just as easily let roll off your back and have it be over with.


Or am I whistling in the dark?


Ease up, be flexible, and don't worry so much, especially about things which you have no control over.


This will not only help you in business, but will make you a much happier person.


After all, nobody likes a whiner or a complainer.


Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. Just don't be consumed by how things oughta be.

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Mike-Writes Premium
Always be ready to adapt and overcome. Thanks for sharing. :)
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cosmicradio Premium
You got it, Mike! :)
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Sui_generis Premium
Nice blog, Rick. Not to be a whiner ...... lol but I agree with most of your thought, however, there IS something to be said for the small stuff at times. SO, I agree with 90% and 10%, well, it's the small stuff.

~Debbi
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cosmicradio Premium
True, Debbie-There's some of the small stuff that is pretty cool...those moments that you remember forever. :)
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Chezbrown Premium
Well Rick as they say "what's the point of crying over spilt milk", some people just love to make a mountain out of a molehill and blow small trivial things out of all perspective.

You took the right decision by just standing watching and this person who made such a song and dance, if he had just held on and let the bus empty he would probably have only had to wait about 5 - 10 minutes and then he could have did what he needed to do and carry on. These people should just stay in their beds in the morning as they always seem to get out the wrong side and then they are looking for an argument for the rest of the day. xxx
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cosmicradio Premium
Yep. Bus driving is a tough job nowadays, though. After hearing some of their war stories, I can understand a bit of grumpiness. I'm not usually grumpy, but if I am, I try to leave it at home-A smile for everyone! :)
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Chezbrown Premium
I can’t imagine you ever being grumpy Rick. You are right though if you are having a bad day you should not take it to work with you. Xxx
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MCrim Premium
It sounds to me as if that bus driver may be on the perfectionist side of the ledger. From personal knowledge, I know that can definitely be a hindrance, but can also be inherent in a person's makeup.

When it is that ingrained, many times, only professional assistance will help. Hopefully, that driver will see that a couple of feet does not make that much of a difference. But he may need help understanding that.

Yes, reactions can come across as anger, especially when they know (in their heart) they are only following the rules, which border on sacrosanct. It's difficult for many to express their feelings in a positive manner.

Thanks for sharing!!

mitch
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cosmicradio Premium
Yeah, Mitch-To me, rules are made to be bent, as long as nobody's getting hurt. :)
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Carol46 Premium
In the overall scheme of things is it worth all the angst! Be calm like you, Rick :)
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cosmicradio Premium
I have the blessing of having a naturally calm state, Carol. :)
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subcpo14 Premium
Sweating the small stuff will send you to an early grave but you cannot be oblivious either. My rule is normally, no torpedo in the water... life is good. Jay
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cosmicradio Premium
Sounds like a good policy, Jay!
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TammiP Premium
I try to make it a rule to never sweat the small stuff. There is just too much BIG stuff to sweat over!!

T
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cosmicradio Premium
Sure seems like it, Tammi! :)
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Kickbacked Premium
It is a wise not to get worked up over trivial matters!
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cosmicradio Premium
You're right, Tim!
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Kickbacked Premium
Have a great day Rick! Keep on Posting!
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verazhelvis Premium
Good I have a good sense of humor . It certainly helps.
Or I say to a person who starts shouting"Yes, you are right." This surprises them so much that they stop shouting hahaha...:)))
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cosmicradio Premium
Very good strategy, my dear. :)))
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verazhelvis Premium
I guess so. It works.:)
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Chezbrown Premium
Now I know Vera that you and I are definitely so much alike as I tend to take the same stance and just agree with them. Sometimes they are in a mood and they are looking for someone to take it out on and then when you agree with them they are so taken aback that you agree they forget what they were shouting about and then it is easier to deal with their problem. xxxx
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verazhelvis Premium
Yes and amen! Hahaha...:)
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Chezbrown Premium
Definitely Vera lol. xxx
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Calmkoala Premium
Hmmm... 'pick your battles'? As you say, especially about things which you have no control over! Sue :)
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cosmicradio Premium
Right, Sue! :)
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justcruzin Premium
It is a very strange world out there. I see a lot of anger.
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cosmicradio Premium
There's definitely some anger out there, Deb. I try to avoid it. :)
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MKearns Premium
If you don't consider the big picture you can lose everything. Well posted Rick!
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cosmicradio Premium
Thanks, Mike!
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Droseh Premium
Hi Rick,
Dealing with life events is a balancing act. As you pointed out, we want to be heard but it should always be put in perspective with how it's affecting all involved...like all the buses behind that one driver. I often follow your response...just be an observer.

Enjoy your day,
Debbie
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cosmicradio Premium
Good advice, Debbie. :)
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DShensky Premium
You always need to be flexible became circumstances change from one moment to the next
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cosmicradio Premium
We sure live in a world of change, Davida. :)
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