Getting Married In China

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The decade's old law of one child per household has ended, but not without leaving serious social issues for China. And to further complicate matters, the old custom of giving preference to having a male child.

These two factors have created a huge gender imbalance causing serious issues for the young men from China when searching for a bride.

Weddings in China is big business. Selecting a bride can be very costly due to the shortage of females available for marriage. And to complicate matters, once a bachelor is over thirty he is no longer considered prime marriage material.

It is incredible how the demand for dowry has switched gender. Before, parents had to pay a dowry for a man to marry their daughter. The custom is such now where the male must come up with the cash before getting a bride.

Wealthy families in China pay bride consultants to seek brides for their son. List of demands are, but not limited to, height, complexion, firm skin, soft voice, witty and educated and preference given to a bride from a wealthy family - just to name a few of the demands.

Men and women from China go to marriage fairs where they can interact via interviews, but it is the women who have the upper hand when the time comes to pick and choose who they will marry after the interviews are over.

The females sit at a table, and a male can approach her for an interview. After five minutes the man stands up and finds another female sitting at the next table. This process can take all day when thousands of people show up for the event.

Older and less fortunate men desperate for wives travel to countries bordering China in search of a woman where it is cheaper to marry one. They go to countries such as Vietnam in search of a wife.

Bride search outside of China as a last resort has its drawbacks. After paying the bride’s family and getting married in her country, substantial reports indicate brides are running away leaving their bridegroom from China stranded, without a wife and no money.

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Wow! That is wild stuff

Yes, totally different to our way.

It was my wish to get married in china.
May be a second time. lol

You never know.

Thanks for this interesting share. The whole process appears to be more about money and worldly goods rather than love.

You hit the nail on the head.

I've been living in China, HK, and Taiwan for almost 20 years. You are right. Because of the one child policy there is a shortage of woman in China. The reason for this is the old Chinese belief, that a family must have at least one son. Therefore many women aborted when it wasn't a boy. Not so in Taiwan and HK. So the problem doesn't exist there. Still, the best age for men to marry is around 35! Also in these countries the parents still have the say who gets married with whom. Therefore the matchmaker job is very lucrative! You are right, dowries have to be paid. Mainly in form of an apartment. And one more thing: The women manage the income of all family members --> Yours is mine, mine is mine!

Thank for your insight through personal experience.

Interesting. I'm glad the one child per couple rule is canceled. Government imposed rules seldom work out as intended.

Yes, you're right about that.

Very interesting article. Chinese men have it bad, Those marriage fairs for most likely end up being an exercise in futility.

Yes, the majority of men do not succeed.

Different country different culture

Definitely.

A good process for making inscrutable orientals scrutable Trevor!

Thanks for share how do I post pictures to my profile

Click on your current image then on account settings then add a profile image

thanks for the engaging share! :)

You're welcome, and I'm glad you found it engaging.

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