Lost a Mate Life is short. Taking few days off.
On Friday night shortly, after I posted a blog I received a phone call from the wife of a mate I used to go to high school with.
We were the best of mates and still are after all these years In fact, he was my next-door neighbour for the six years we spent in high school back in the 70’s.
He got diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer 3 years ago as they didn't know at first but by then it was already starting to show signs of spreading, dispite the treatment the cancer got worse and spread to his organs and Lymph Nodes. It got to the Stage IV cancer.
She rang me up to say that the doctor came to their home on Thursday for another check up as that is where he wanted to be and the doctor said he is nearly at the end of his time and all that can be done is to make him comfortable and wait.
They said maybe a day or two maybe less.
Mick wanted to see me and knew I would be there ASAP regardless of what I was doing.
I spent 3 ½ hours driving to get to their home. There was a glimmer of light on his face when I came in to see him but it slowly started to fade away overnight and into the morning.
We chatted through the early hours about the old days and the fun and I guess some cheeky days of old. Had a bit of a laugh and then it got serious and he ask that when it’s time if I can help a bit after he is gone with all the details needed for arrangements and other things.
I slept over there well not slept maybe nodded off here and there as I knew I couldn’t rest properly I spent most of Saturday over there and about 8am Saturday Morning he passed away peacefully.
I spent the next few hours over there ringing the doctor who was on call at the time and arranging for an ambulance to pick Mick up; fortunately, some family members were there at the time as well
Sharon had her parents and some other family members there to look after her and I will get back there as soon as I can tomorrow to start sorting things out with Sharon and her parents. His parents passed away a few years back.
I left for home took 4 ½ hours as I was stuck in some heavy traffic due to a breakdown. I am so tired but will get some sleep soon and back out there tomorrow. Just came home about 2 hours ago and spent some time letting go the tears.
So I just wanted to let you know that I am taking a couple days off from WA I might pop in to keep my mind in check. Despite being a spiritual person and know a lot more on the other side its still shook me deeply he is my best mate for all those years till now and still is my best mate forever.
No fun writing this I keep going for the tissues, as I can’t see what I am typing.
So if you are wondering why I haven’t responded to any comments on my last post that is why. Some things are more important that WA.
Those who have asked any questions in a PM please ask the community, as I have no intention to respond any more for now.
I just felt I needed to let those who read this know as I am normally there every day to respond.
Ok got to go get some rest and back there again.
So I am going now to try to sleep and rest and off again in the morning back to their place.
Take care everyone and remember life can be shorter that you realise so make the most of what you do in life.
Andre
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your mate. It is a really tough one. It sounds like you guys had a great bond and connection based on love. Love never dies and your connection with your friend will never be lost.
Mike
Thoughts and prayers are with you and his family. Grief at loosing a friend or loved one is not an easy journey. Your visit I’m sure made his leaving this world a little easier (not sure if that is the right word). You will always remember the good times and have a warm place in your heart for him.
Proud of you for being such a good friend. Many now are to busy to care about others.
Barry
Sorry to hear the passing of a dear friend, I agree life is precious so take care best you can and make the most of it, after having a stroke in the new year rethought my priorities take care
Thanks Katie just about to log off I had a major heart attack 10 years ago and lost 25% of my heart and nearly left this place. He was there when I woke up at the hospital and stayed for 5 hours. Now it was my turn
Ok thanks again going to bed now.
Hello Andre,
My prayers and deepest sympathies go out to you and the family for the loss of your dear friend. I'm happy for you however that you were able to share that special time with him before he passed away.
God bless you and give you peace.
Vanna
Thank you Vanna I really do apprecaite your words and I really am glad to hear from you as well. Got a bit worried
What happened to the sites I can't get to them? Pm if you want
rather than saying it here.
Blessings always Vanna
Andre
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You were so good to be there for your friend and his family. My deepest condolences.
Thank you Suzanne enjoy the rest of your week ahead