Life can be hell and the mind doesn’t care so take control

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Updated 3 years ago

Many times just when you are thinking life is working out for you bam life feels like hell just broke loose.

You have an idea in mind for your next post or review.

In your mind, you came up with some great ideas and when it’s time to write them down your mind decided to go for a wander elsewhere and you are left on your own trying to think

Well, you are not going to think if you let your mind go on walkabouts without you.

Remember:

You are in control, not your mind and as you start to focus on the job at hand you are telling your mind this is where you are meant to be.
This is not the time to be thinking about what is on TV or what you are planning to do later.
Even what you are going to eat (well except for Prince Partha but he has trained his mind or more his stomach if you want that reward then earn it first)
Create a set plan on a task that needs to be done.
That is to work on your online business.
You know there is a need to create posts, reviews (if that is part of your niche) or working on your SEO plus improving your website presence in other ways.
Anything else that is not to do with these tasks relating to your online business then put aside everything else for now.
If you do think of something else then jot it down on paper for later on. The worst thing you can do is to keep thinking about other issues and then you become distracted even more where the hell breaks loose once more.
Think about how many times you are supposed to be writing or researching and the next thing you know you are on social media checking out the messages or reading what other people are doing or most often complaining and whinging about some trivial issue.
Before you know it a couple of hours has passed and you have nothing to show for the original task you were meant to do.
I am struggling to think about what I want to write about.
If this is the case do the following and work out a plan for what works best for you.
Make a plan, another word for this is preparation

Speaking about preparation

If you go to your 9-5 job do you just get out of bed and go to work straight away or do you prepare yourself before you leave? Yes, that includes taking a shower, brushing your teeth, getting dressed and all else needed in the morning.
I doubt your workmates will be prepared and happy to see you in your glory (well maybe some might depending on your status and sex not saying anything more on that) and think wow this person is so dedicated to their job they didn’t even get dressed and still stink from the night before.
But they are showing (more or less than expected) how dedicated they are to the work where nothing (literally) makes a difference and they just want to get the job done.
(Well maybe that might be an exaggeration but blame Partha for that I was thinking what he might say) See the influencer he has. Never thought I would talk like him (not)
But hopefully your get the point you need to prepare yourself for the day at hand same with your online business.
Break it up

The first part of making a plan is to break up your day.
First, work out what needs to be done not just for your online business but also for your daily life at home. This also needs to be included so you can better work out how much time you really have to devoted to your business.
Things like taking the kids to school don’t forget to pick them up as well.
Do you need to plan a meal for yourself or your family?
What household chores need to be done?
Unlike my neighbour, you don’t need to mow or trim the grass every two days or get out the equipment to vac the leaves that the wind just happens to blow on your lawn.
Trust me this happens at least twice a day every couple of days. That’s why I love the rain when my neighbour is concerned he doesn’t like the rain.
Even this can be broken down, not my neighbour he needs something else.
I am talking about normal household chores.
Unlike my neighbour, there is no need to be OCD with the cleaning if you are living on your own there shouldn’t be that much to do if you compare to living with kids and a partner.
If you had something to eat then do the dishes right there and then and get to work. Don’t save them up for later or better still to save more time get a dishwasher then you can get to work quicker.
Work out what time you have for all this and the time you will (not if I can) but will set for your online business.
Hint:
Look at the goals you set when you came to Wealthy Affiliate are they still realistic or can you improve or correct on that for real.
Be honest with yourself there is no need to pretend to others in your statement of your goals.
I don’t care if you spend two or 10 hours a day as long as you are true to yourself and apply what you say.
Remember it is your online business, not mine I have my set hours and plans and everyone is different according to their needs, not others.

Set some time limits.

If you are able to make a daily plan for the week that’s great, even better for the month then you already should know what to do.
If you are not used to creating a plan that then just focus on the day at hand.
Gradually you will be at the stage to plan a week ahead even two weeks or a month ahead.
It may not happen overnight but neither does your website it takes time to build a foundation as so does your train of thought.
Work hours

It is true that working from home online you have any set of hours available to you.
If you wish to work in the day, night or even early hours if this is your normal line of business
Regardless, working 12-16 or more hours even from home will not do you any good if you are wasting most of that time on other matters instead of working on what is at hand or becoming too tired to work due to pushing yourself too hard.
Break it down to an hour or two at a time if you can then take a break.
Just make sure you get back into the mix of things after your break
Even during your time spent working online don’t forget to take a couple of short breaks.
Think of this as a smoko break (5 to 10 mins max) then get back into it.
These short breaks are also a recommended health and safety compliance (well in Australia there are) that many businesses at work would endorse (not smoking) to having a break part.
Why the short break?
Here you get off your butt and give your legs a break this will do wonders for your health and especially your back and legs.
Perhaps a great time to get a cup of coffee or tea or visit the bathroom whatever.
Gradually as you build upon this you are ensuring that your body is having the rest it needs and you are able to work more efficiently during the hours you set.
You will find what works best for you and how long you can focus and when to stop to rest your mind and your body.
If you only set an hour or two then don’t take too many breaks two quick breaks should be ample enough perhaps even one after each hour of work.
Remember your mind works for you. You don’t work for your mind.
So take control straight away and don’t be tempted as the mind has many tricks up its sleeve.
Take time during some set hours to just do some research find out what are people asking in relation to your niche topic.
If other thoughts come up (remember your mind is playing tricks) then take some notes on that if it has nothing to do with your work and set it aside for when you have finished what you are doing now.
Eventually, the mind will admit defeat but every now and then it will test you if you are alert to your actions and try to play games once more.
The more you focus on the task at hand the less likely the mind will try to take control over you.
That pen and paper is a powerful tool against your mind, use it to your advantage.
Bits and Pieces
You know you have to do what is necessary for that post or review even doing research but also know you don’t have to do it all in one hit.
Just like setting hours do what needs to be done in bits and pieces.
Today spend your one or two hours just doing research. This also includes your keywords research and your title.
Don’t worry about how you will set up your table of contents or template layout, for now, that is for later.
Your job right now is to do research for that topic at hand nothing else.
Later or the next day depending on the time you have available, look at your research, keywords to be used along with images and your title headline.
Make sure your title and first paragraph also have your keywords included.
Once done, then you can do a template or your table of content layout. Here you can work out which and where any images will be placed but you can add the images later.
For now, the layout is what is important first.
If you have heaps of time in your day or night, then take that break have lunch or dinner do what needs to be done during your work break then get back into it.
Double-check what your layout and table of content will be and make sure you have covered what needs to be done for your readers intent.
Does your table of content include what people are really asking?
Are you able to answer their question correctly, truthfully and to the point?
Have you covered what matters most relating to your topic?
Once you have that in place and your content layout, on each section write at least 2oo words relating only to that section you set out for each header
Remember your H2, 3 tags and if necessary to go that far any H4 tags no more is needed.
Make sure you cover what needs to be stated when done after each section re-read what you wrote.
As you are working on a section by section and re-reading. You can if you wish, fix any typos or correct small spelling if need be but don’t take too long on that you can spend more time later before you publish on spelling, punctuation and paragraphs then.
Just first cover each section one at a time.
When you feel you have done all that then again re-read the whole piece, or if you have someone at home that is willing to read your article and ask them if they understand and makes sense to them.
Adjust what needs to be adjusted. Don’t put more than two sentences in your paragraph as it gets boring if you have a long section to read.
Break it up
Don’t forget your conclusion and any CTA call to action along with your images.
When you feel you have covered it all now you can go back and once more re-read your article and work out where your affiliate links will go along with any internal and external links along the way.
Finally, before you publish if you have a spell checker like Grammarly or whatever other tools you may have this should be your closing finishing touches to make.
Now you are ready to add your article to your WordPress site.
Remember it may seem a hassle but always double-check what the article looks like before you publish .
Of course, if you missed something you can always adjust after publishing but if you do this right the first time even better.
Indexing
Once published get your article indexed with both Google Search Console and Bing Webmaster Tools don’t wait for their bots to pick up on your new post let them know you have one for them to look at.
Are you having issues with creating a review or post then I would strongly suggest you look at our Prince Partha views of enhancing your success online with what you are presenting to your readers.
Yes enhance, remember you are writing for your readers and as a result there is research to be done before you beging to write and publish.
Just like breaking this down to what people as asking will make is much simplier if you stop stressing about the need to get the posts publish and even how many.
Work at your own pace this is a lifetime business and needs your thoughts to be in the right place at the right time.
Conclusion
Just focus on these things and stop thinking or worrying about the other parts you don’t have control of.
Just do what is require for the task at hand and as you create a set standard and patten to your online business things will pan out better for you in the short and definite long term.
Note I did this in 2 hours and 20 minutes.
I took a twenty-minute break only because I make a cup of Camomile to relax as it is early in the morning now my time (1.40 am as I finish this) plus the dogs started barking so I had to check out what the commotion was about.
Turns out we had a bat in the tree plus a cat on the fence stalking the bat and the dogs were barking at the cat.
Eventually, the cat ran off as I checked it out, the bat flew from the tree and the dogs well they just ran into their house had a bark and growl or two after all was gone then went to lay down and sleep.
Sometimes, life can seem like hell. Things can happen over and over again. But there are things that are in your control like your mind.
Just try to focus on these things and stop thinking about the things you don’t have control over. Try to do the best you can.

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