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The motivation I have when I decided to go premium last April 10 has been lessened. I know I am the only one who can bounce back from this kind of feeling but I am kinda overwhelmed. I am not doing the right things. Not focusing at the end results. I know that when I focus on what is taught here it will help me eventually attain success on what I wanted to put out there.

There was some kind of disappointment when I asked my "upline's" help on April 22. I personally messaged him at his FB account but until now I haven't received any answer or support. I asked him if he can help me come out with 3 themes for my WA website but to no avail.

I thought he will at least reply to me and not ignore it. If he is too busy he can just tell me to ask anyone here or tell me to just follow the lessons and it'll be okay. But to totally ignore it meant he doesn't mind or care. It was like just "you signed up through me and that is it".

Maybe I should not be making it a big deal but I was frustrated. I hope anyone who can read this can understand. The thing is I think he should have at least acknowledge it. In my opinion in the beginning any newcomer like me needs all the help and support she can get esp from someone who was the reason why she signed up in the first place.

Question 1. - This is probably a stupid question but can I be under another mentor?

Question 2. - Should I cancel my membership and restart again? I guess not then what I have done so far will be gone.

Anyway, I am at a lost right now. Overwhelmed with a lot of things, doing things that will not take me anywhere, just shallow happiness. I need some structures to follow. :(

I know what to do but it seems that I am having difficulty taking action. Please help

I need to get my mojo back, to really focus, to be determined again, to get that motivation that was there during the first days when I thought that WA is the place to be.

There's still the passion to continue, the vision of success at the end of the road, what it can do to me, to my family and to the people I will be able to reach and help.

I need some support. Please help.

Sincerely,

Arline

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Arline, I can totally relate! I could not even indent ( or tab down ) to separate my message from your name. This may be the reason my website looked great until I previewed it. I found a mess! I too asked for help but received NO help! Please tell me the secret for the "indentation" I mentioned above. I really need to know what to do!! Linda

Good morning, Arline -
First, I'm really sorry that you are not getting the support you need from your upline - that is pretty inexcusable. I don't even know who my upline is, so I've never tried that line of support. One thing I have done is to ask question after question in the different areas I'm having trouble with. For example, if I'm working on a particular lesson and I'm just not getting it - I ask a question within that lesson. I get a lot of help that way. I've also used the Live Chat option and I've received a lot of support there, too. I was fortunate to connect with someone here on WA who has basically become a mentor to me. I think this is what you're looking for. I don't know if you can change your "upline" - but I wouldn't quit and start over if I were you. I'll reach out and offer to be a mentor to you if you'd like. I have only been online with WA since about mid-March, but I have learned quite a bit in the past couple of months, and have a pretty "healthy" first website. I'll be honest, I'm definitely not making any money yet, but then again, I really don't expect to right away. I'm working my way through all the certification lessons, then I'm going to move on to the Affiliate Bootcamp lessons. I'll be very glad to offer you some support though. I'll send you a PM with my personal email address - feel free to reach out anytime. I'll be glad to offer you what help I can - even if the advice is simply a good place to post a question that I don't know the answer to! Keep thinking positive thoughts and don't give up! This is very doable - I struggle sometimes because I just don't have enough time in the day to work my WA stuff. I still have a full-time job and put in about an hour and half early in the morning and then a couple of hours in the evening from home. You can do this!!

God bless!
Julie

Thank you very much Julie, greatly appreciate your response and your motivation for me to keep going. I think I will be okay again.

Best regards,
Arline

If you go right to the bottom of your network Julie that will tell you who you signed up under. You may find he is a little bit busy:-)

Julie you are so sweet

I am sorry for your situation. In a perfect world you should get help from the person who invited you to WA. But we don't live in this perfect world.

And the good news is: You don't have to worry about it. Work yourself through the Certification Course and if you stuck or have a question you just do what you already have done: Ask a question!

You have her hundreds or thousands of mentors around, you will get help. Make your own schedule and then work on YOUR business.

And again: Just ask the community here :)

All the best!

Hello Daniel, thanks a lot for your advice. I guess I have to feel how it is to be here again. I was away for 22 days and lost how supportive the WA community is as a whole.

Greetings,
Arline

Yes, I also have to remind myself from time to time that the community here alone is worth the premium membership ;)

Try to hang in. Keep doing what you know you need to do. Write a blog, post on facebook and twitter daily, and create an email list.
I joined WA in Dec.2016 and have not made any money yet. I have felt like you do many times.
I just keep on keeping on, hoping for better days.
Sarah

Hi Sarah, thanks so much, appreciate it a lot. You inspires me as well.

If they can do it, we can too.. just have to take action. I will be fine.

Kind regards,
Arline

I'm glad to see you getting some responses below. There are, indeed, people who will forget about you once they have you signed up. That is really unfortunate both for you and for them. I would almost be tempted to quit and sign up again under someone else s that they wouldn't continue to get credit for my referral, but that's just me.

You certainly can (and will) find someone else who can take an interest in you and help you along. Don't give up on account of someone else's lack of motivation.

Hi Craig,

You're right. Thank you so much for your response too. Guess I needed a lot of encouragement and motivation to get into that feeling of eagerness again to do and make something out of what WA can do for me in the long run. I am getting okay now.

Best regards,
Arline

Motivation comes and goes, believe me. The thing that will determine your success is how you respond to the low points. Being optimistic durning good times is easy.

Arline,

I also joined in April and I have found so much help from the entire community here -- I would not let this experience get me down! Post your questions on the chat or in the discussions under the training segments! For example, I knew that I wanted to do my website on autism but also knew that I had to narrow it down since it is such a broad subject. I posted that on one of the training discussions and had several good responses back -- in fact, I used on of those responses as my final choice on how to narrow it down!

Good luck! I have not yet had anyone let me down, but even if I had the same experience I hope that I would turn to the rest of the community for the help that I need! Let me know if I can help further!

Hi thanks so much for your reply. I appreciate it a lot. You inspires me. Guess I haven't been here for quite sometime and kinda lost the WA feel.

Kind regards,
Arline

I suggest supplementing your learning here with something else entirely. Too much of anything makes you dull.

I would be willing to help brainstorm your three topics. PM me what you're trying to do.

Encourage yourself too. Nothing can stop you except you.

Hi, thank you very much. You're absolutely right, nothing can stop me except me. Many can help me but it is only me who can turn these helps into something beneficial and useful for me.

I am okay now. I can do this.

Kind regards,
Arline

Anytime you need anything...

Hi Arline
Firstly the answer to your 2 questions is NO and No.
When you signed up under your referee he has lifetime cookies so even if you cancelled and then decided to sign up again he would still get you referral ( I know it is a HIM because I looked :-))
Themes are really a personal thing and it is whatever you are happy with and view as comfortable to work with. I personally have changed my theme many many times until I am now happy with what I an using.
It really doesn't harm to take a break for a day or two or three to get your mojo back. You seem very enthusiastic about what you to achieve, so my suggestion is to take your time and don't look too far into the future. Take the training one step at a time otherwise, it can become overwhelming.

Hope this helps you.

Hi Gordon, thank you so much for your reply. It really hits me. Your advice not to look too far into the future is absolutely right. Taking the training one step at a time reminds me also of a quote by Lao Tsu. "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step". Again patience and perseverance are some of the best keys to remember.

Best regards,
Arline

Hi Arline,
I can relate to what you are saying, for me as well it has been a bumpy road since I started my new website 3 months ago. (I signed up to WA a year ago and only now have I really gotten into working on my site).
I have sometimes when I tell myself that I want to quit and give up because I don't see any results. Then I try to look at the future and at how I would like my life to be and how successful I would like my website to be.
There are many great people here at WA that are willing to help you with anything you need, so if you don't find a mentor you can simply ask a question and someone will guide you what to do.
The best thing to do would be to follow the Affiliate Course here at WA step by step. I only yesterday finished all 5 courses and I feel that I have learned so much along the way and now there is nowhere for me to go except forward.
I will also send you a PM and I will be happy to help you with what I can.
Have a wonderful day! and keep smiling! :)
Paulina

Hi Paulina, thank you so much for your reply and your willingness to help me as well. I think after reading all of the replies here and the support and encouragement given to me, I will be fine again.

All of these responses motivates me to go forward just like what you said. I will be around WA again from now on.

Kind regards,
Arline

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