Does Imposter Syndrome Hold You Back From Your Dreams

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It is a real thing and so many folks experience imposter syndrome at some point, in their online careers, the worst case scenario can be a show stopper and the short version can hold you back from achieving at the best version of your self and your business.

Exploring the short 101 version.


You land in a situation and are consumed with that self-doubt, reflecting on the WA flow, it can be that feeling I can't create a website I can't write, I simply can't do this.

A mild form of self-sabotage that you have probably carried in your little backpack for some time without realizing at all, and to a degree, it is reinforced by the folks around you without them realizing at all.

The negative self-talk will stop you in your tracks, you are an imposter for even thinking that you could, in the first place, people like you cannot do this and don't belong in this space.

Bringing imposter syndrome into the light

That sense we get when we are creating or achieving especially when the results start to flow that we somehow don't deserve this, we shouldn't be doing or achieving the results that we are.

The feeling can overwhelm.
That we will be exposed for our lack of knowledge and ability, that may be the results we are achieving are just flukes.

" Come lunchtime you will be exposed for the fraud that you really are" .

In today's connected world of instant, this phenomenon is widespread, in the online world much of what we do is solitary in nature we are at times our only sounding board, so relative we do not have that yardstick.

If we are talking creatives then possibly 95% suffer from this condition.

Even the rich, famous and engaging, the folks at the top of there game suffer, it cuts across every demographic and age group, not isolated to high achievers.

The commonality is that we are all human,

Breathe a sigh of relief there is hope for all of us.

Pluralistic Ignorance

A phenomenon known as pluralistic ignorance is one of the keys to understanding. It is where we doubt our abilities and ourselves and believe we're alone in thinking the way we do and that others do not understand or could ever experience our situation.

The thing is that:

No one else really voices their doubts, ............ we all tend to do this, so in this environment, where folks don't express how much difficulty they find in doing certain tasks or how much they doubt themselves there's no easy way to dismiss those feelings that we can not achieve or overcome, and that we will not see or deserve results even though we are tirelessly striving to achieve and are achieving.

"Just look back over your shoulder to see how far you have come, if we can remember the bridges that we had to cross to get where we are today ".

Without that compass, we can easily get lost, it can prevent folks from achieving and expressing their ideas, and feelings on many subjects.

When you realize that we are not alone on this journey and that many folks genuinely care about your outcomes, the road becomes that little bit easier to travel.

When you realize that we are all the same and have the same challenges the road ahead becomes easier to travel.

When you realize that everyone is the same as you the next time you start to feel like an imposter.

Claim it in the knowledge that you are not and claim it in the knowledge that you are a work in progress.

I see so many folks come and dip their toes in the affiliate marketing pond, and also many folks drift away, imposter syndrome can be a hard taskmaster.

Looking back on the year that has been, things may be going gangbusters or then again you may be off the boil.

Usually, if we stop and reflect there will be a reason, that you are stalled.

One of the best ways to work through it is to open up and share, it can be empowering. In business especially things never seem to go according to plan, and the hard things are only that until we tackle them head on.

Our weaknesses are only our strengths that we have yet to meet.

" One of the biggest truths of the online space is that you do not have to be the best all you need to be is you ".

That is all we need to be,................ folks buy into that.

Have a blessed Christmas,

Alex.

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Thanks for sharing a well thought and well written post Alex.
In WA we are more fortunate that we have the community to ask question, share our disappointment and frustration and share our success. Most of the time, there are always people who encourage and supportive to our situation.

The 'speak up' culture is here. So you never walk alone.

Joe:)

Well said Joe,

I really like how you expressed that.

The 'speak up' culture,

It is indeed here and it goes hand in hand with the ethos of paying it forward.

Let's hope that it is so entrenched that it will never go away.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts much appreciated.

Best wishes for 2019 and compliments of the season.

Alex

I can attest to what you’re saying as you composed your thoughts VERY WELL!!

It’s what makes wealthy affiliate a cut above the rest! The feel of community, and ALL to succeed

I haven’t experienced this type of demeanor since pee wee league. Where everyone is encouraging to those trying to play a sport.

The sport of AM has been a troubling one for me, without the community here I would have already quit.

Thank you for sharing this,
Shannon kamal

Hi Shannon,

Compliments of the season to you and your loved ones, many blessings.

There are many dividing lines in the online world, WA is above the fold in so many ways.

It is the sense of community both engaging in and belonging to that helps to create some very good outcomes.

It is interesting that you say that without the support of the community you would have flagged the opportunity and moved on.

That is the case for many I suspect.

We are indeed in a special space inside of the online industry.

Best wishes for 2019 Shannon and may you get on top of your AM, Journey.

Alex.

Great post Alex! Thank you so much for the great clarity and encouraging words 😊

Merry Christmas!!!
Chris

Hi, Chris good to see you and all the best wishes for your Christmas and New Year.

The thing about online marketing is that we are birds of a feather, what affects one affects the lot at some point having a recognition, can actually be quite liberating.

Best wishes for 2019.

Alex

Hi, Alex.

Great post. I wrote a short one in response with reference.
"What Is Google Saying About You."

Merry Christmas and many Happy Returns as we move into yet another New Year.

Respect and regards from Ontario, Canada.

Paul Mindra.
@PMindra

Hi, Paul,

Good to see you, and all the very best for Christmas and the New Year many blessings to you.

I will take a look, that is an interesting way to look at things, Google, knows so much about us all, we are like icebergs, in that we only see the top 10%.

Thank you for the kind wishes.

Alex

How profound, Alex.

So how does google find you?

Who do I google...
I googled 'Alex Evans.'
I did not see you yet.

Google 'Paul Mindra'
You might see some point of interest.
I have a few people that I follow.

Neil Patel
Pat Flynn

They know how to brand.

Thank you, Alex for your contributions.

Paul.


All fantastic, Alex.
So who is Alex Evans?
We all need to be on page one of google.
I'm getting there.
Google 'Paul Mindra.'
Then start working on 'Alex Evans.'

Kindest regards, Alex.

Paul from Canada.

Thanks for sharing, Alex.

Hi Roger, good to see you at this special time of the year.

I hope all goes well for you and that you are in for an enjoyable festive season.

thank you for your support it is much appreciated.

Best wishes for 2019.

Alex

Same to you, Alex.

Thank you, Roger, all the very best to you.

You're welcome, Alex.

Thanks for sharing.
MERRY CHRISTMAS

Hi Chong,
You are most welcome, I hope that you found the post informative.

have a blessed Christmas and best wishes for 2019.

Alex

This post is spot on...thanks for sharing!

Hi Jessica,

Compliments of the season, have a blessed Christmas.

It is way more common than folks think, the realization that folks go through the same processes can be liberating.

The trouble is that many don't actually make it through that glass ceiling.

Best wishes for 2019.

Alex



Thanks and same to you!

You are most welcome Jessica.

My goodness, what powerful words !
Awesome message, awesome lesson
Much Appreciated
Merry Christmas

hi Elaine and Scarlett

Good to see you hope all is well in your world, have a blessed Christmas.

in the online world, folks perceive that they are different, the truth is that we are all the same, go through the same phases perhaps at different times.

Alex

Hi Alex,
The best from you. Have nice day.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

Hi Barry, you are most welcome have a great day also.

Have a blessed Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Alex

Thanks Alex for sharing this post.
Joseph

Hi, Joseph, you are most welcome, glad that you found some value in this post.
Alex

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